Last year, I got speaking with a bouncer who used to be in the army. He had a really rough upbringing, child abuse, etc, you name it, it happened.
We met on a night out, and he kept asking for a date. I found him extremely intense and the fact he would trauma dump on me without me asking, such as even going as far as telling me something that happened in the army (not to him) and I was absolutely disgusted, and he weirdly could not believe why I would be(?) - when I expressed, he'd go into deeper detail. I won't write it here, but anybody would be disgusted.
I cut him off a month or so later, it was way too intense. I have now met someone else, and this man (the bouncer) pocket dialled me after 6+ months of no contact. I messaged the number to ask who it was and it turns out it was him. I apologised as I said some upsetting things in a short row when we spoke the previous year, and he returned the sentiment. We ended up in casual conversation asking what we were both up to in life now, and then he started making flirty comments. I told him I met someone new and wasn't living in the same country, to which he basically ignored and continued to trauma dump. I know he takes antidepressants at night because when we used to text, around that time his texts would be very hard to understand and I had to basically stop replying to him the other night after a good few texts of just utter rubbish he had typed - such as talking about his new job, how "we had to figure out what you meant by your texts" (no idea who we are) and when I wished him luck, he replied with "luck my arse". It was genuinely ramblings of a drunk if I didn't know he takes mirtazapine.
Thankfully he hasn't piped up since - but I guess I'm just worried about what he could do? I hear horror stories of ex army men with PTSD, and I think I never cut him off sooner last year because I was so scared he'd maybe harm himself after what he told me?
My friends said stop replying and if he pipes up again, block. But he wouldn't actually do anything to me, would he? He knows the country I'm now living in, but not my DP, or anything like that. I am very bad for worst case scenario thinking and am a people pleaser - so I need someone to give me a wobble.