How to stop feeling like everyone is out to get me?

[GreenGoddessCirce]

To sum this up - I go through good spells and bad spells. Rough childhood, been to therapy, etc etc.

However, I always feel like people don't like me (never usually true) but it's as if my nervous system makes me think this is a 'gut feeling' and I start to isolate myself from everyone around me.

Any tips to stop this thinking? It's just negative/intrusive thought central and I really wish I could pack it in before it gets worse for me.

I often feel the same, OP. I had a rough childhood too and my parents never 'liked' me so I guess it came from there. My default is to think the worst of people. It's got a lot better since I've been 40+, I think I give less of a fuck what people think now

I had a good 9 months of changing my mindset, and it worked great, I totally trained myself to not care! Then I had a ton of life changes, where I'm more distant from my friends than ever, and I guess being far away and disconnected from them means I have more spare time to wonder what they think of me. It's really tough!

I used to feel like my whole family were against me, I was very sensitive to any sort of negative comments (to be honest though I do think at the time they were a bunch of arseholes but now I can deal with them more appropriately)

When it got too much and I felt like strangers were looking and judging me negatively (and lets face it people will look and judge) I went to hypnotherapy for confidence building and it worked wonders.

Now I know who I am, I like who I am, if someone doesn't like me, then that's ok xx

www.mumsnet.com/talk/feeling_depressed/4589292-do-you-constantly-feel-like-youve-done-something-wrong-or-everyone-is-out-to-get-you?reply=118536255

Following with interest, I get this too OP. Totally depends on my mood. I just try to tell myself it's not true, and smile at people, and think how situations/comments could be meant or taken in a different way to my negative interpretation. Didn't have the best childhood either (often felt disliked/not good enough).

Worth a shot, for sure! I never equated it to social anxiety as I'm extremely confident and outspoken in social situations, I never struggle in that regard. I need to do more research.

It's usually the aftermath of interactions, I overthink what I said or did and whether I was out of line for the most basic things.