Do you believe in soulmates and natural connections with people?

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As in there are some people you're naturally drawn to.
I find it interesting how humans click with some people and not others, and sometimes you hardly know a person and speak like you've known each other for years.

I was instantly drawn to my DH even before I spoke to him; not in an attractive way (though of course I did think he was very handsome) but in a "I need to get to know this person" way.

This doesn't have to be just about relationships but could also be about friendships

i think ppl really over romanticise love/bonds/connections

In my teens I had a boyfriend (aww.. young love!). He was really nice and kind and decent and respectful. He was very funny. And he had long curly hair. But he didn't smell right.

I don't think he smelled bad in anyway, not BO or bad breath or anything, but just not the right smell for me.

I really struggled to make up an excuse to split up with him - how can you explain that to your friends when you're young? and in the end I just got together with someone else

My first dh & I were teens when we met. I saw him across a crowded room and time literally stood still, I felt like I couldn't breath etc It was the most powerful feeling, almost frightening.
We were together for years and although we eventually became a little stale and grew apart, we were a solid couple, happy etc
One night we were out and I glanced across the room and saw a man and had exactly the same experience I'd had many years ago when I'd first seen my then dh.
I felt really shaken by it and really sad too.

Nearly 20 years later, that man is now my second dh. My first marriage eventually ran its course and not long after we separated my now dh came into my life. We've been together for 14 years.
I'm very happy but I'm terrified of ever seeing someone else across a room and experiencing the same reaction 😳

Not really. Of course I like some people more than others, but I don't believe in "soulmates" or "the one" or (if talking about a friend) an "instant connection". I can think of a couple of people I liked a lot on first meeting who turned out to be a bit annoying!

I haven't experienced it myself

not soul mates….. but I think you can have an instant connection with someone for friendship that transcends just ‘getting on’. I once saw a woman at a party in my twenties. I instantly was drawn to her but was shy about approaching her. I even asked our mutual friend who was throwing the party who she was and strangely she said ‘that’s so funny, she asked about you a few minutes ago. Go speak to her’. I did. This was 2007 maybe. She lives on the other side of the world from me now and we are still best friends. I absolutely adore her…
and since then I have met a few people who have immediately reminded me of her. Her smile or her laugh…. But more like her energy. And they have become incredibly important people in my life. 2 of them were health therapists…. And I knew to trust them and trust that that universe had sent them to me. And I was right too.

so I don’t think it’s soul mate… I think we all have the same energy maybe and it resonates with us on a much deeper level and you just know that that person is ‘one of you’.

of course I have other friends, amazing wonderful brilliant friends who I would trust with my life…. And I know they wouldn’t let me down. But these people….. the ones with my energy…. They just know me. And I know them. Some people might say we had met in a past life? I don’t know about that. I just know I have a connection with them that I don’t have with anyone else.