What would you do ?

[AmItheonly]

If your mother was foully rude to your partner (and I mean horrendously rude for no reason. A total character assassination) would you carry on having contact as normal or say enough is enough that she can’t treat your partner that way and expect things to carry on as normal ?

I think this is probably narcissistic personality disorder ? (MIL) I’m unsure but she truly believes she can do and say anything to me and it won’t and shouldn’t affect her relationship with dh ???!

Tell her its unacceptable and if she every does that again, you will cut all contact. Tell her she must apologise to your DP. Maintain low contact if she does these things as she sounds pretty toxic

Yes dh has pretty much said this but she seems to think she can verbally abuse me and just carry on as normal with him she’s deluded

100% would have some choice words for her.

Doesn't your DH stick up for you?

He has - it’s just she’s SO outraged that I’m almost wondering am I right or not 🤣🤣

I think that what narcissists do don’t they they make you doubt yourself 😞

This, but you need to be prepared to follow through with no contact, as it's unlikely she'll stop.

Would your DH be willing to follow through with that?

Of course your DH should be sticking up for you! I don’t think that necessarily means she’s a narcissist and I do wish people would stop throwing that term around every time someone acts in a way they don’t like.

She has done a few things prior to this that have made me wonder if she is narcissistic, so it’s not just because of this but obviously I don’t know for sure

I wouldn't wait for the next time, I would cut her off immediately.

It’s happened before (although not as bad as the most recent occasion) so she’s had more than one chance 😞 no more chances left now