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trust issues with partner

29 replies

timjohn123 · 15/07/2022 08:48

I've been seeing a great woman for coming up to 6 months now. For the most part its been a great experience and a healthy relationship..we make a lot of time for each other by seeing each other 3-4 times a week, have fun dates and have great sex life..We're also planning our first holiday.

The one issue that's overshadowing this however is trust issues on her part. I find that if she calls unexpectedly when I'm outside doing something as trivial as grocery shopping she will assume I'm not being honest and think I'm somewhere else...If I'm out with friends she will go distant even if I tell her in advance where I am or if I decide to be spontaneous and watch a movie without mentioning it she will get overwhelmed...

We've sat down and talked about this quite a lot (its been happening every week for at least a month now) and she's mentioned she's finds it hard to trust due to issues with her dad and previous relationships (previous man she saw was texting other women and not caring about her)

I'd like to know how I'm supposed to navigate this? I thought texting everyday and being open and honest was enough. I don't have female friends and live a relaxed lifestyle too.

OP posts:
Ladybug14 · 27/07/2022 10:52

As has been said above, she won't change without therapy

Run away

Watchkeys · 27/07/2022 11:16

Iflyaway · 15/07/2022 18:32

Apparently Hitler was a really nice bloke to have a chat and a laugh with; intelligent, funny, good conversationalist, etc. We most likely could all have had fun spending time with him.

Fucking hell!

Tell that to the millions he had ordered to be murdered.

You disgust me.

My point was that you have to look at what happens when things go wrong with an individual, and how drastic a difference that can be from 'the good times'.

Thanks @sammylady37 and @parenthood1989 for pointing out that my point was understandable and relevant.

FairyLightAddict · 27/07/2022 11:20

She's jealous and insecure. Unless she does some work on herself, it won't get easier.

totallyoutnumbered · 27/07/2022 20:20

After your recent update. Just leave in my opinion. This is no life however well behaved she can be when she's got you all to herself. Utterly suffocating and these are her issues to deal with. As previous posters have said we're not rehab centres for broken men/women

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