Help me get over this man for good.

[Felixsmama]

Recently met up with an ex, we got chatting for ages went for a meal and then we slept together it was great. We split because I always felt he was holding back and wasn't emotionally available. There's quite a large age gap. He would still try to get in touch and check in and then start to try initiate starting things back up. I decides I didn't want to talk to him so cut him off . Since we haven't been in touch I feel amazing I've lost lots of weight and look the best I have in ages. I feel really good my mental health was great we got chatting again and then met up. Had a meal then slept together towards the end of the date he started being weird and it made me feel so shit about myself.

I really want to be strong and just bin him off for good. He will come slinking back at some point. Please wise mumsnetters help me shut the door on the prick.

Try stopping shagging him? An effective way to get rid of time wasters.

Good idea he's a great shag though 😩

Men are abundant… You can’t tell me others won’t compare especially if you have a real relationship.

You need to realize your own worth. It isn’t a gift to have good sex. It is a minimum.

Your mental health is worth far more than sex with some old dude who doesn’t want a real relationship with you. His attention in the brief moments aren’t worth more than the whole of your emotional well-being

its up to you.

Are you worthy enough in your own estimation to deserve stable mental health and a foundation in which to meet someone who you can have a real relationship with?

Or does it mean more to you to get the fleeting attention of some old guy who won’t put any other time, effort, or emotional connection to you? Is your emotional wellbeing and dignity worth less than a mans practiced attentions to get what he wants from you?

At the end of the day you allow your time to be wasted, each day you lower your value and you miss out on opportunity. It’s up to you.

Oh! And slinking back isn’t what you think it is LOL. If he was slinking back over the breakup he’d be more open emotionally as you’d wanted. He doesn’t slink back, he slithers in to get what he’s only wanted this entire time.

wake up. If he really wanted you he’d have you fully. He doesn’t. It makes you feel good to think he’d slinking back, but it’s just to use you again and you are desperately letting it happen.

slinking back would be wanting an actual relationship. He just comes round for sneaky sex. I bet he has a woman he’s after that he will pull out all the stops for. From all accounts you’re just a mislead woman thinking his attentions mean more than what they actually are…. A port in a storm of sorts. A stop to replenish on the way to his destination …. You ain’t it sis.

Ignore him.

I bet you're just one of many...if that thought isn't off putting, then your boundaries have been eroded by this man's behaviour.

He’s not slinking back, you are proactively going there. You can force yourself not to go for dinner and shag nim you know

Get under another one?

She’s a fool if she thinks she isn’t. The whole slinking back comment and the fact that he isn’t … it’s just her cope is troubling….

its a rotation. Men literally pay money for sex, it’s NOTHING to pretend to care for easy sex. NOTHING