Ex acting funny

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An ex of mine recently got back in touch, telling me he loves me, wants to be with me now that we’re both older and wiser.

Blah fucking blah.

Now he’s trying to ghost me saying that he’s not sure about meeting up any more and he doesn’t need the “drama”.

Please note that there has been zero drama on my side. If anything, I’ve been leaving him on read and responding whenever I can.

He said “oh just delete me or whatever and let’s leave it at that”.

I replied “I don’t block people; that’s juvenile. If you wish to block me, please feel free and I assure you, I will not be offended” (which is true btw, I couldn’t care less)

Except, he hasn’t blocked me just yet 🤨

What do I do? Thanks in advance x

He was probably drunk when declaring the undying love- carry on as you are and do nothing.

Personally, I would block and delete and stop giving him headspace.

Exactly what I was going to say

Maybe he thinks it's juvenile too?!

Thanks so much. These were my thoughts exactly initially but glad I’ve got advice and confirmation on here. Doing it right now! Thanks again!

He’s a dickhead. He doesn’t think it’s juvenile, trust me! He’s just trying to play games but I’m far too grown for that now. He’s getting blocked right now. Thank you for the advice x

You block him, obviously. It's not juvenile, it's removing a toxic person from your life. I think it's juvenile to keep playing this absurd game with him, frankly.

Sorted then.

You seem bothered, OP. Do you still have feelings for him?

Agreed 100%. Thank you

I am a bit bothered but not in the sense that you would think.

I’m more bothered that he thinks he’s that important that he’s looking to ghost me and that I would actually care on a deeper level.

Would I care generally speaking? Perhaps. 5/10, 10 being extremely bothered.

Would I care in terms of it completely taking over my life? Absolutely not.

I’ve blocked and deleted him now so no issues going forwards hopefully!

Cultivating total indifference will free you from being bothered about him thinking he's important.

I should screenshot, print this and stick it on my fridge lol. Thank you x

What is bothering me though, is the fact that he hasn’t blocked me back just yet.

First of all, why the hell am I even bothered if I don’t give a shit about him? Is it more an ego thing? My pride, perhaps?

Secondly, why hasn’t he blocked me since it was his wish to disconnect completely?

If there are any men on here that have any advice just from a male’s perspective, that would be extremely helpful.

Thanks to you all x

This

I totally agree with you, hence why I have blocked him.

However, I seem to have this issue, I can only describe it as not liking when a person “gets one over on me”.

I know, I know. It’s childish and a complete contradiction of what I said earlier about not wanting to be juvenile.

But I don’t like it. I feel stupid almost because when he contacted me, I shouldn’t have even responded I should have just blocked him right there and then.

But stupidly I engaged, we talked about everything from casual, everyday life stuff, then the talk turned sexual. Thankfully, I’m older and wiser enough now to have not sent any compromising pictures of myself.

But somehow, I’m still sat here feeling “had”. That’s the only way I can describe it.

I blame myself entirely.

He wants a shag. He fully expected you to comply. He hasn't blocked you yet as he can't quite believe he isn't a stud...

To be blunt, that’s all I wanted too, no strings, I had every intention of ghosting him after the fact. This is going to sound awful but that’s honestly all he was ever good for. He was a complete and utter twat in every other respect.

But after this recent shun, I am completely turned off and wouldn’t touch him with a 10 foot barge pole now.

But why is it that I can’t shake this feeling that he’s got one over on me?

I’m just being immature. Deep down I know that. I need to learn to let shit go. You can’t win every fight but I will win the war, put it that way.

If and when he decides to try and contact me again, he’s going to get the shock of his life.