Overthinking

[Eness23]

So, I’m probably being sensitive haha
but thought I’d get an outside view
so my boyfriend, I think he means well but says things in the wrong way.
im going to use last night as an example.
ive put on a few pounds and he knows I’m a bit conscious of it.
I had my hair extensions out and he saw me for the first time and said I like it, you look a lot more clean and fresh and it makes you look slimmer….I was a bit yes and no with this remark and let it slide cos I knew he probably meant well.
latwr in the evening I brought a box of chocolates out or the fridge and said do you want a chocolate and he said no and you shouldn’t ….I said why not? And he said aren’t you supposed to be on a diet?
i was a bit taken aback by this as it came from nowhere I mean I just wanted a his damn chocolate man haha
then just before bed I got up off the sofa and it make a creek and he said, you have put some weight on havent you (probably trying to be funny coz the sofa made a noise) again probably nothing but that was 3 times he mentioned my weight in the space of one evening.
then this morning, he looked at me and said, you’re so beautiful…even when you look like that!
i just don’t know if I’m being soft but I just feel a bit weird about it

Nope - you are not being over sensitive.

First remark - how are hair extensions anything to do with weight? I also don’t like the implication that they were somehow not clean.

Second remark - he’s telling you what you should/shouldn’t do

Third remark - not funny, it’s hurtful.

My suspicion would be that this could escalate. It’s controlling.

I don't know, I mean I can see why you'd take those comments like that but I think it's because it's a sensitive subject and I think he's actually trying to show you he doesn't care that you've put weight on.

Hair extensions- I agree with him, they give me the creeps too to be honest and can sometimes look a bit...grubby...nothing against the people wearing them, just my opinion. Also, of course a different hair cut can make you look slimmer or just different around the face and neck.

Sofa, sounds like him just making a joke, he knows you're sensitive and was trying to lighten it a bit

Chocolate remark, I'd probably have said fine I'll eat yours too then if you don't want one, but again, he's probably trying to help you, would you rather he kept offering you chocolate? The reverse would be he's trying to sabotage your diet.

Only you really know him, if he's not nasty or controlling elsewhere I'd think this was a clumsy way of trying to make a joke out of it to show you he's not bothered about it, but he knows you are, so he's just trying to make light of it and support your diet. Tell him to stop with the jokes, you don't find them funny, and see if he does