Am I crazy?

[Babyno1xx]

So I just want to see what others thoughts are on this... don't really want to speak to friends about it as I don't want their opinions of him to change as he is a good guy and I'm hoping to work this all out.

So we argue constantly at the moment. We've only been together for 1.5 years but very involved with each other kids (which makes this harder)

About 6 months in to the relationship I found him very full on, being a very independent person needing my own space etc I asked to slow things down a little but nothing major. He took that the wrong way.

We don't live together and only see each other 3 times a week or so which is good for me being a single mum and working etc. I'm tired at night. But I always make his dinner, give him cuddles etc.

Lately I feel like nothing is good enough he moans that I don't have enough time for him or I don't have the energy for him. I'm really trying to please everyone but sometimes I'm just tired and want peace once kids are asleep.
If I don't cuddle him once kids are down, like if I sit at the other end of the couch to watch tv he thinks something is wrong. If I don't wanna have sex he goes all huffy (even tho he denies it but there's an atmosphere) he went in a huff the other day because I put a snap chat of ME AND HIM on my story but never tagged him? 😐

He overthinks everything and it's exhausting me. He says I want a 'part time relationship' which isn't true I just have other priorities too. Am I selfish or is he? We just blame each other and I'm totally done.

Good Guy, you say ?

Let it be done then OP. Let him be a manchild with someone else until they give him a rest as well !

This all sounds exhausting and suffocating.

He's emotionally manipulative, has unreasonable expectations for the relationship, and is completely unwilling to compromise on anything. He won't be happy unless you're showering him with affection 24/7.

I know these aren't the responses you were hoping for, that you wanted to find a way to resolve the issues, but unfortunately there is no way to make things work with someone like that. You're trying to form a healthy relationship with someone who's incapable of being in one.

I agree with Yellow there.

But I always make his dinner, give him cuddles etc.

Well, stop that for a start. What is he contributing? And I read in your next paragraph that 'nothing is ever good enough for him'

Stop. Honestly, just stop doing lovely things for anyone who Noe's not reciprocate.

By all means offer and arrange a time to make him dinner. Then, wait, and see whether he reciprocated. If he does, you can continue. If he doesn't, you can still continue but just don't fall into the habit of doing it every day.

You are a partner, not his mother. Or are supposed to be

Oh, then I got to the bit about being huffy over sex. Again. Just don't have sex with anyone who huffs when you don't feel like it.

This is advice I 'finally' arrived at after many years. I wish I'd know this from the start.

Ahh, he promises if you want a break, he won't be back. Perfect.

p.s. I'd bet my bottom dollar he doesn't take breaking up lying down. Just watch him, he knows he has a good deal here and isn't prepared to put much effort into being a decent partner. Ugh.

Think of the joy and time of being free from his coercive presence and mood swings. You're not happy you need to act on it now.

He needs his dinner cooking and cuddles?

And huffs if you don't want sex?

And is terribly hurt if you try to see to your needs before his?

I'm sorry op but your understanding of what a 'good guy' is is way off.