In a nutshell, my husband had a brain injury and we didn't have sex for some time. When we did start again it was months after restarting that side of our relationship that I realised he had HPV warts. When I pointed this out to him he said that he had slept with an escort years ago. When I asked him when he first noticed them he said he couldn't remember. That he couldn't remember when is plausible because of the brain injury. He's not brain damaged although he does suffer from very mild memory loss. I asked him why he hadn't researched what they might be and he said he didn't know why he hadn't.
Am I crazy for thinking that maybe he wanted me to find them? That he hadn't got them years ago but that he got them more recently?
No real signs that he had been seeing someone on the side. He had been texting a woman I don't know but there was nothing much to go on other than she was texting him to see why he hadn't been in touch. He's now deleted the thread from his phone.