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Coping emotionally as a single mum, will this stop?

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retyuo · 13/07/2022 12:12

me and DP broke up in pregnancy and as it got closer to the birth I really struggled with the fact I couldn’t share moments with anyone, specifically my ex who I loved a lot.

its been a few months now and he’s paid CM but no interest in our child. I am more or less over the relationship now but I am an emotional wreck about the things I have nobody to share with like rolling over, starting to speak, their first Xmas was hard etc. First time they dipped in the sea. I find it heartbreaking not to share with their dad. I have others around me like family and friends but it’s not the same.

will I get over this in time? It’s making me so sad. I used to update ex but stopped when he didn’t reply. Even doing that was a comfort though for a while. It’s nothing to do with wanting the relationship back, it’s over. But emotionally for our child it’s lonely.

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Shmithecat2 · 13/07/2022 12:17

Grandparents mostly love all those kind of updates - are there any in your child's life?

takeanotherchillpill · 13/07/2022 12:28

You might enjoy making a journal/memory book... recording the events and memories. Cathartic at the time for you - I totally get what you mean re. the telling someone - and something your child will enjoy seeing in the future.

retyuo · 13/07/2022 12:39

@Shmithecat2 yes they do take an interest on my side, never heard anything from ex dp’s side. It just doesn’t feel the same though.

@takeanotherchillpill thanks, that’s a nice idea I think I will do that !

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Angustiada · 13/07/2022 12:45

I totally get this. I have 2 kids (7 and 11), been a single parent for 2.5 years and for my it's one of the hardest parts, that and the not having anyone to share the worries and stresses of raising two young people.

I don't have any advice really I'm afraid. I share some things with my sister and my dad but it's not the same is it? No one loves your kids like their parents 😞

retyuo · 13/07/2022 12:46

Yeah exactly @Angustiada i find it hard that ex doesn’t even want to know them! I have put to bed the relationship but I would love it if he cared and loved them and wanted them in his life. Makes me sad everyday.

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