Husband moving out on Friday.

[Changernamerjoker]

i don’t know if I’m being dramatic, but I’ve asked him to leave for a bit and he is.

he has a pretty serious problem with alcohol and he knows this and he has really tried with it but has fallen off the wagon recently.

its not the alcohol that’s made me make this call. He is so depressed and me and the kids just don’t seem to make him happy. He seems to have to endure us on weekend and would rather lay in bed watching his phone. Which he does often.

we’ve had good times but for the last decade we always wind up back here with him in a deep depression he attributes to work stress.

bit if this man is so unhappy - surely I’ve got to be a part of that problem?

I’ve done everything I can, tried to book therapy, time off, holiday for him alone to dee stress, he won’t do anything to help himself.

it’s making me so miserable:

what would you do?

You’re doing the right thing. You didn’t make him abuse alcohol and he needs to be a grown up and access professional help for his addiction and depression. Your DC deserve to live in a happy healthy home and by getting him to leave until he’s in a better place you’re taking steps to give them that. If he’s drinking you can’t let him have unsupervised contact with them. Their needs most come first.

You need to let him go
I've literally just finished removing the last of my alcoholic exh's stuff from my house
There's nothing we can do to change them it must come from them and I doubt you have caused it just as I didn't

You are taking these steps to protect your children from life with an alcoholic. It must be hard but well done.

You're doing the sensible thing. You've spent years supporting him to no avail and he's still not got anywhere - and is drinking in a dysfunctional way. Time to put yourself and the DC first. His issues are his to resolve.

You are doing the right thing. He is choosing drink over a healthy life and being with his family. You didn't make him start drinking, you can't stop him, it isn't your fault. Only he can decide he wants to give up, and until he does, he will be selfish and moody, because that's what addiction does.

Stay strong. You will soon see it's the right thing.