Married and taken men constantly on the look out?

[Whatshallidolottie]

Honestly, what is it with men? Pretty much on a daily basis, I am glared at by married men on public transport, or at work, or out and about - and even approached by them or otherwise taken men. Friends, colleagues etc sending flirty messages, sending suggestive compliments etc. I am somebody who does not flirt and does not invite any of these behaviours. I shut them down or ignore them entirely.

Are they always constantly on the look out for a shag or attention? Why can't these men be happy with what they have?

How do you know?

Man here. Some people perhaps confusing two issues...

1. 100% of straight men I know, even very decent ones, act a bit differently around a hot woman. More smiley, more friendly, more helpful, maybe more flirty. I can see it in their faces. It seems to be hard to disguise or avoid. Maybe it's an evolutionary thing? Like pupils dilating?

1. What percentage of the above would be proactive in actually trying to shag the hot woman? My married friends are a pretty decent bunch. I can only think of one who I know would try it on.

So, my point is that men have a bit of a reaction to an attractive woman, but that doesn't mean they all would want to have sex with her if they're in a committed relationship.

Oh that's sad. 🙁

Okay some men aren't being slimebags

Optimism!

Eh? This is women giving examples of married men making gross passes at them. No-one's confusing anything.

@ZaphodDent yeah, we’re not ‘confused’ but thanks for the input

@Littlefucker I asked for a mans perspective because none of the men I know IRL would be honest about it so it's probably my fault.

I was just thinking statistically.

With the example of a train full of 20 men for instance maybe 2 or 3 look then 18 or 17 don't.

I just meant less wouldn't, than would.

But given what Betterfuture1985 has said, I fear I maybe wrong, I was just trying to add some hope and optimism into.

rather than it turn into a really negative "Men are shit!" Thread.

Tbh, a lot of men would cheat if the opportunity is there. I don’t think you necessarily need to be attractive either, just available.

@Zodiac32 its really not your fault!

That's men biology. Don't know why you all are so surprised. They are wired for wanting women. Even if they are not the immoral kind, a part of their brain gets excited regardless.

A man with morals and values will avoid anything wrong even if he can't help feeling attracted

Other kind of man who has no morals will jump at any opportunity when the woman is interested back. Or perhaps even seduce her to get attracted!

Potentially you're framing it wrong by saying this thread is about "all men are shits." Most men can't keep it in their pants but I would wager that for at least 25% of women, including my ex-wife, this is considered a good thing. Whenever my ex-wife wanted to cheat, she didn't have to try very hard to find someone to cheat with, so for her it was ideal that most men would shag anything. I guess some women like that if they ever want sex there's probably a sleazy bloke available to fulfil the need.

Wow don't want to be misunderstood,

I'm not saying this is a "Men are shit!" Thread.

I mean, I didn't want it to turn into that.

And

I'm sorry mate, feel your pain. ❤

It's okay. The freedom of not being married more than makes up for the pain! It was me who initiated the divorce, by which time I was really looking forward to getting out. The only thing that worries me is that my children spend more time with her than me and I'm not overly convinced it's a stable environment but so far they're happy and healthy so fingers crossed.

‘Monogamy is very difficult for many people and it's a shame those people aren't more honest with themselves and their potential partners before making commitments that they are fundamentally unsuited to.’

100% this.

I think most men would cheat if given the opportunity. I've been hit on a few times by male 'friends' even though I am happily married and they know that. One even tried to kiss me on the way back from the loo in a pub once when DH was round the corner.
Men in general don't appreciate what they have got and most are on the lookout for a bit extra.
I'm not sure being married for years will be a thing in the future. Most people in crap marriages stay because the alternative is bleak.

If you're attractive enough and or gregarious, outspoken, chatty, friendly then men will try it on doesn't matter if they're married. I don't think most men are capable of being loyal to one woman all their life.

rather than it turn into a really negative "Men are shit!" Thread.

I don’t think that’s negative, just realistic.
Nothing wrong with that.
Better than being a fool.

There is a cohort of women who tend to flirt around attached men. Is that to wind other women up? Although it shouldn't if your partner strays it's them whom are being betraying. Or perhaps it's because they think "oh that one can keep a relationship going"

It's been my experience that there is a large and growing number of women who behave like these men. I have had unwanted advances from married women both when I was married and more recently.

However, knowing my circle of friends and acquaintances, it still seems to be men far more than women that do this kind of thing. Although as I've said, my ex-wife was every bit as bad as the men described here so I know a woman just like that who was very close to home. From the excuses she made I don't think she gave a second thought to the women whose husbands and partners she was sleeping with.

I'm sure most men would claim they are the exception to the rule of course and feel free to doubt my own claims of preferring monogamy because statistically I am exceptionally rare 😁