How do you know if the spark has gone out of your marriage, the spontanious things you used to do has gone, i know people get older etc,and all that slows down but i still love that sort of stuff, TMI i know, but the stage where you used to rip eachothers clothes off,cant keep your hands off eachother, has anyone ever got it back? I want the butterflies back! I actually want him to make an effort,like he used to do little things just because he knew i liked them, TMI but he used to make love, hes not an emotional person,doesnt talk about feelings,but that was the only time he would,he would tell me how much he loved me,he couldnt live life without me etc etc,hasnt happened in years...i only have to ask him to make me a cup of tea and he says hes made loads where as in reality hes made 1! I said to him earlier, id walk over hot coal for you, you wouldnt for me,he just didnt respond,and that again was because i asked for a cup of tea,i was trying to state id do anything for you but you dont for me, kind of getting a little MEH about it all tbh, P.s i have kind of dropped hints, we aint the sort of people to sit down and have deep conversations about that sort of stuff,he kind of just snaps and ends up in a argument, thing is,he spoils me,buys me anything i want or need but when he brings that up, i tell him im really greatful and i love the gifts but i want effection and hel say, i tell you i love you everyday,but thats not enough for me IYSWIM,starting to think, has it just turned into a marriage of conveniance for him or does he still genuinly want me! He tells me im beautiful still, am i wanting to much? i dont know, i make alot of effort and pride in the way i look, for myself but mainly for him, Atm im treading carefully as weve had some bad family news so have to watch what im saying,hence the post on MN,any advice would be appreciated.Thankyou