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Feel sad about this

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Windows95 · 11/07/2022 02:01

I recently went on an organised group holiday with my friend Alan, my close childhood friend Bella (they don’t know each other but randomly have some mutual friends) and B’s friend Carla. We all really hit it off. For context A had feelings for me a while back but we have moved on now, he is with someone else now and very happy. I felt like sometimes he could get a bit grumpy with me / frustrated which made me feel a bit sad!

i really hit it off with Carla and detected maybe a bit of awkwardness from Bella about it.

i since found out that Bella and Carla had a social event recently and Bella had tried to encourage Alan to come. He’d said no. Bella had denied to me that she’d said anything to him (asked me if I’d been in contact with him, I said no, and she hadn’t either) but has apparently been singing his praises to everyone etc. I’m thrilled they get on but feel a bit sad and pushed out... especially for her to deny it? Obviously they are free to socialise with who they wish but it felt a bit pointed - everyone apart from me, especially for Bella (who I’m probably closest to in the group, we are perhaps best friends) to instigate...

am I being too sensitive?

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Windows95 · 11/07/2022 09:20

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altmember · 11/07/2022 09:30

Yes, you're being over sensitive. You don't own your friends or have an eclusivity agreement with them.

Also, Alan has a partner but chooses to go away on holiday with 3 other female friends instead (including someone he knows used to fancy him)?

Windows95 · 11/07/2022 09:32

Thanks alt. Fair point. Alan used to fancy me, I didn’t have feelings for him

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