The ghosted ex has been seen with another girl

[Oscarbin]

......and just like that, the bloke who ghosted me has got a new girlfriend, while I carry on trying to piece things together to find out what I had did wrong.

Don't know whether to laugh or Cry.

I have his daughter on social media, maybe it's best I take them all off now.

Don't know if I am angry or not.

I am so glad I joined the gym as everyone has said how glowing I am.

Re the idea that a new woman can change who he fundamentally is....If a person kicks a puppy for whatever reason, they're the kind of person who could kick a puppy. The rest of us simply don't have it in us, no matter the situation. You cant change people fundamentally in that way. If we could there'd be no prisons, no mental health issues, we'd just go around changing assholes into nice people. We assume too much when we think we could change a person. So drop it. Hes that kind of man and thats all there was to it. Nothing you did or could have done, nothing she can do, can change that

Of course she can't change who he is.

And why would anyone want to change another person? If someone needs 'changing' then they are the wrong person. Find someone who is a good fit for you. Someone who is respectful and mature and caring and honest. Much better than finding a dud and trying to change them.

So he’s a coke head who drinks too much? I’d be thrilled he ghosted me. He’s saved you years of misery.

Hit the nail on the head there! How did u guess?

He did hide it from me a while.

So we were together nearly two years and to be fair it was more off than on. Such a mess god know how I put up with it.

Just hurts and I can't stop hurting.