Situation-ship What a mess!

[Tots4823]

25 year old with 3-4 situation-ship with 27 year old male. He was very good to me and I really enjoyed my time with him. However, I was relocating so it ended. I wanted to do long distance, they said it would be challenging.. Kept on decent terms.

2-3 years ago he begged to try again. I refused and told them to leave me alone. This was mainly due to personal struggles at the time and the stubborn though of that “if you wanted to you would have” made it work at the time.

Everyday I think about this decision and really miss them and believe they are the one. However, I am unsure if this is because I am lonely and still single. But I have never been treated better. Anyway, now they are in a relationship with someone I know. I found this out as I was preparing myself to tell them how i felt, finally.

I really wish I could them how I felt. But this will make me a home wrecker and it is bad because I know her. But I do feel we are soul mates.

What do I do?

“Everyday I think about this decision and really miss them and believe they are the one. However, I am unsure if this is because I am lonely and still single. ”
Yes, it’s this. Infatuation with a past happy time in the absence of anything better coming along.

You told him no the last time and he’s taken that at face value and moved on. Time you did too.

If he was single then maybe, yes, you could say something. But he’s not.

Let sleeping dogs lie.

What a confusing post. Is it all about the same person?

What part of that is confusing? Maybe read again . Three people were mention, my ex, his new girlfriend and myself.

Mentioned*

That’s exactly what it could be! Thanks for your input.

He has moved on , so should you.

Who is they? You say he and then they? It is confusing.

Anyway if he is in another relationship then he has clearly moved on and you need to as well.

He’s moved on and you should move on to.

Sorry I just realised that. By they I mean him.

Whose they? Do you mean your ex? The post is confusing! Why people have a problem saying him/her is just stupid, just pick one and use that, ‘they’ doesn’t make sense in some of your sentences, hence the confusion.

When you say you will be a home wrecker, are you assuming he will just dump his current partner for you?That might not happen.

I’d say get in touch with him. He might feel the same, might not. If you don’t do something, you’ll never know.
You might be in a bad place, making the past look rosier than it actually was, or maybe he is the one. Who knows?
The one thing I’d definitely advise is to be absolutely sure that you don’t start a love triangle because that is not a good start or end to anything.

This isn't a mess. You have feelings for somebody who is in a relationship, and so, you should do nothing.

It's very simple, and there's nothing confusing about it. You just need to keep your feelings quiet, like everyone else does who has feelings for someone in a relationship. It's very common.