After being with my wife for over 10 years.
Some things have come apparent.
She always said a lot but her actions never really seem to add up.
There has been quite a few instances where she tell half truths or drip feeds the truth.
I believe this comes from her strict upbringing.
But when it comes to our marriage, she generally would pick to offend me over someone else.
This always puts me in a very negative state of mind.
As I’ve given my all to this marriage and as a sign of respect for it. I would never choose conflict between us over offending someone else.
We have created boundaries within our marriage which when discussed. work for both of us, but she seems to disregard them as it’s suits her.
She knows shes does it and we’ve discussed it, but she always picks upset me over anyone else.
Our day to day life is good,
We have a healthy sex life but trust issues from my side are developing.
On Some instances she likes to provoke an argument.
One example would be.
We did something different in the bedroom after she had returned from holiday with the kids.
I said “that was new”
She replied “maybe with you”
She then tells you to chill out it’s just a joke.
im starting to wonder if this is more of a game and she seem to like Provoking arguments.
What do you guys think ?