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Rosie19901 · 09/07/2022 06:58

Hi Everyone,
Im new here and desperately need peoples help please.
Me and my ex were together 7 years and engaged for 4. We have a house (which I’m still living in )and a dog - we’ve been in and out of our relationship a few times over the past few months because my ex can’t decide what he wants as he’s not happy etc. We finally called it quits a few days ago but as normal he now wants to try again but doesn’t want to commit to being in a relationship with me the way things are … but he also doesn’t want me to see anyone else (which I wouldn’t anyway). I’m trying really hard to stand my ground by saying no relationship no trying and no sex as I don’t understand why after 7 years he won’t commit! My heads all over the place because I just want to go back to normal - I miss sleeping in the same bed and I miss our routine. Our house is going up sale as I made the decision to book it to see if it shook him up.
Im so caught in the bubble I can’t see what the right thing is to do .
TIA

OP posts:
KangarooKenny · 09/07/2022 06:59

So he wants to use you for sex. Tell him to jog on.

PoseyFlump · 09/07/2022 07:01

What do you want Rosie? It hurts short term to miss those things you're so used to (like sleeping next to someone) but think what you want long term.

FreudayNight · 09/07/2022 07:01

Sounds like he wants to relegate you to Booty Call for him, whilst retaining “One and Only” for you.

Tell him to get to fuck,

Lozzerbmc · 09/07/2022 07:03

Why did you break up? Why was he not happy in relationship? The back and forth is not good for you. He either wants to be with you or he doesnt. You need a really good conversation to decide a proper way forward

Cyberworrier · 09/07/2022 07:14

It shouldn't be this difficult/this much of a battle being in a relationship. It shouldn't all be on his terms. Would you really trust him if you get back together after all this? Sounds like your self esteem has taken a knock from the instability of the relationship and you're finding it hard to believe you deserve better- but you do deserve better!

ChickenOfTheSea · 09/07/2022 07:15

Don't take him back he messed you about for far too long.
If you want children with a man this is particularly important not to waste any more of your fertile days on time wasters.
You should sell so you move on with you share of the money not to 'shake him up'.

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