Issues with my dad

[mydaughtersseethis]

My dad, who is in a long term relationship,
is commenting on random women's photos on SM.
He will comment things such as 'hello beautiful' or 'stunning' on photos of provocatively posed women.
He uses lots of love heart emojis and fire emojis.
Recently it's got worse and it's a few a day. He's not realising that when he posts on these I can see them in my timeline as can his grand-daughters who are late teens.
The last couple he's done I've added an angry face on (when you can add a like, sad face etc) to make a point of showing him that I've seen it.
Apart from the fact that it's incredibly disrespectful towards his partner I hate that my daughters can see that their grandad is basically a creep. The women are normally a lot younger, think my age and he definitely has an ethnic type which is not what his partner is.
I'm on and off about actually saying something to him.
I know he will be incredibly defensive and it will somehow end up being my fault.
Wwyd? It's not normal is it?

How old is he, OP? Because sexual disinhibition can be a sign of early dementia, and also occurs with some Parkinson’s medication.
Of course, it’s more likely that he is indeed simply a sleazy creep, but if he’s elderly, then the above are a possibility.
Have you challenged him in person about his posts? Or said semi jokingly to his partner: “I don’t know how you put up with him sleazing over women online, I would leave him if he were mine!” as a “heads up” to her and warning to him.

His partner doesn't have any sm.
He's not elderly and he's been a bit like this for as long as I can remember. I think it just becomes more obvious as he gets older.

Why is he not with your mum? Do you generally have a good relationship with your dad?

I think that a whole load of privileged older men have convinced themselves that they are under attack from 'wokeness' and it is their duty to stand up to it. And if the women are provocatively posed then they want to invite these sort of responses.

Time to remove him from your and your daughter's social media? This may be why his girlfriend doesn't do sm either.

No idea. They split when I was very young. I get on ok with him if I keep him at arms length. I don't think he knows the half of what I know about him and has no idea how sm actually works. I'm betting he is pming women too.
He defo thinks that it's fair game to comment if someone is posed.
What does he think he's gonna get out of it? He not exactly a catch!

I think I'll mute him as I have before and ask dd if she wants to do the same. I shouldn't have to though should I? He disappoints again and again!
How do I face his fiancée and play happy families when I've suspicions though?

Men like this may be vulnerable to scammers posing as young laydeezes. "she wants to come and meet me so I'm sending money for her airfare"

I don't know what is your responsibility WRT to the current woman in his life. Are you fond of her?

Your daughters are your priority. I would just delete him from sm. And like you say, polite when you see him. You could say that you find the phwoaring at young women distasteful and inappropriate. And leave it at that, don't get sucked into an argument.

Are you concerned that this is the tip of an iceberg?

I get on with his partner and the kids all like her. I honestly think he comments on a lot more than I've seen. I've pulled him up for it before when it was my sil mum who he was commenting on.
He's one of those who has had several relationships over the years and expects us all to be 'family' immediately. He's had a few who he had been seeing weeks and wanted us to call her nana etc to the kids. When we said no he would drop it in convo to them and eventually I lost my rag and told him he wouldn't see them again if he tried it. His relationships don't often last long and it's always their fault rather than his!

Does he realise you can all see his sleazy comments? Do tell him, and how he’s embarrassing himself in the eyes of his young relatives. That might stop hin.

I did! He accused me of stalking him!

The only actions you can control are your own.

You've told him, he's not listened, he's not going to stop, so delete (not mute) him so you don't have to see it. I'd advise your children to do the same.