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Right person, wrong time

23 replies

Mimi198 · 05/07/2022 15:47

Did you ever feel like meeting the right person for you but the timing in your or his/her life was bad? How does it ends for you? Can you share your stories, with good or not so good ending ?

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Watchkeys · 05/07/2022 18:44

If the timing isn't right, they're not the right person. Timing is a crucial aspect of a relationship being a success.

SilverCatStripes · 05/07/2022 18:49

I agree with Watchkeys

If you meet the right person then you both make it work - What are the circumstances which are bothering you ?

KissThaRain · 05/07/2022 19:03

Back in 2004 - 2006 worked in same office . He had a partner who had babies before we met - he always said if only we’d met 3 years before . He is so beautiful. Haven’t been in contact for years.

DatingDinosaur · 05/07/2022 19:05

I also agree with Watchkeys, but I do know what you mean though.

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Mimi198 · 05/07/2022 19:33

Met a guy who's getting back to school and working at the same time. He's a bit overweight so for now really focused on his training and just quit smoking.

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DatingDinosaur · 05/07/2022 19:36

Sorry, but those reasons sound like the Gentle Let Down to me. He doesn't want to say he's not interested so is making excuses.

Aquamarine1029 · 05/07/2022 19:38

Mimi198 · 05/07/2022 19:33

Met a guy who's getting back to school and working at the same time. He's a bit overweight so for now really focused on his training and just quit smoking.

He's not interested, op. If he were, he'd figure it out.

Dery · 06/07/2022 00:35

“He's a bit overweight so for now really focused on his training and just quit smoking.”

I agree with PP - those aren’t reasons not to date. He would still have some spare time which he could spend with you if he wanted. If he was about to start a job in a different country, that might be a reason not to date. It sounds like he’s just not interested.

PokerFace123 · 06/07/2022 00:43

Always love @Watchkeys advice. I'm learning a lot.

Havesomeselfrespect · 06/07/2022 01:13

KissThaRain · 05/07/2022 19:03

Back in 2004 - 2006 worked in same office . He had a partner who had babies before we met - he always said if only we’d met 3 years before . He is so beautiful. Haven’t been in contact for years.

He sounds like a shit. What sort of man says that to another woman while his partner and babies are at home?

wellhelloitsme · 06/07/2022 01:27

KissThaRain · 05/07/2022 19:03

Back in 2004 - 2006 worked in same office . He had a partner who had babies before we met - he always said if only we’d met 3 years before . He is so beautiful. Haven’t been in contact for years.

He said he wished he'd met you before his children were born so that they wouldn't have been born and he could have been with you instead? He said that while still with their mum?

Mate, he's a cunt!

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Mimi198 · 06/07/2022 03:24

We have time to date. It's just like we have both busy scedules for now and Its feel like the timing could have been better.

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mnnewbie111 · 06/07/2022 05:05

It's not a thing (not a real one anyway)

ShandaLear · 06/07/2022 05:15

No such thing as right person wrong time. If someone really wants to be with you, you know it. There’s no second guessing, no blowing hot or cold, no excuses. They will be there with you. No question. It sounds like you’re being fobbed off with lame excuses.

PurBal · 06/07/2022 05:50

Yes. We went in our different directions, dated other people, and got married 10 years later.

LightSpeeds · 06/07/2022 06:00

Mimi198 · 06/07/2022 03:24

We have time to date. It's just like we have both busy scedules for now and Its feel like the timing could have been better.

People make time for the things they want...

MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig · 07/07/2022 22:05

People make time for the things they want and excuses for the things they don’t.

haggan · 07/07/2022 22:08

Watchkeys · 05/07/2022 18:44

If the timing isn't right, they're not the right person. Timing is a crucial aspect of a relationship being a success.

Disagree with this.

When I met DH he was married. By the time he divorced I was married. Once I had divorced he was in a relationship. It was a few years before we were both single. We have been married over 20 years now. It was definitely right person wrong time when we first met.

Aksbdt · 07/07/2022 22:21

DH and I first met 14 years ago and dated but both had a lot going on and it didn’t work due to those outside factors rather than us, stayed in touch but either one of us were with someone or working far away etc and then 8 years ago both finally in settled places in our lives and single and been together since

Watchkeys · 08/07/2022 01:06

haggan · 07/07/2022 22:08

Disagree with this.

When I met DH he was married. By the time he divorced I was married. Once I had divorced he was in a relationship. It was a few years before we were both single. We have been married over 20 years now. It was definitely right person wrong time when we first met.

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Right. So when the timing changed, he became the right person. But when the timing was wrong, he wasn't the right person.

So, ideally, you wait for the person to be the right person at the right time.

missbipolar · 08/07/2022 01:16

Yes, I met a guy 3 years ago but the situation wasn't ideal, we occasionally talked following that and are now together

OneFootintheRave · 08/07/2022 08:23

Maybe he's self conscious and just wants to get fitter/lose weight before getting naked with someone new?

haggan · 08/07/2022 09:00

Right. So when the timing changed, he became the right person. But when the timing was wrong, he wasn't the right person.

Nah. You said if the timing wasn't right they were not the right person. He was always the right person.

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