When did ‘your time’ happen?

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Interested in hearing your stories of when you was finally in a happy place after a breakup or just after a general bad spell in life.

I've been split up with my ex almost 2 years, single mum, money is tight. Seeing everyone happy and holidaying (not all as it seems on insta I know) but life is quite tough at the minute and as much I keep telling myself that it's not forever... I don't see my life taking a huge turn any time soon and I have to admit I'm feeling jealous and lonely at times!!
Did you get your happy ending?!

I’ve just had my heartbroken once again, by someone who I had spent the last two years fighting for my relationship with.

hoping to hear positive and optimistic replies to your thread Op!

Still not found mine

Sorry to hear you’re feeling low, OP.
at the age of 45, my happy time is right now. There can be happy endings.
Left my exH at the age of 35, was a single parent, mega stressful job, then a torrent of dead end relationships for 6 years, before meeting my now DH at 40.

There were several horrible years, where at times I’d cry with loneliness, and like you, would be insanely jealous when looking on social media, or at all the seemingly happy couples in the park, out and about etc.
I got to the point of thinking ‘it’ would never happen for me, but it did, just when I was on the verge of giving up.

BUT, you have to get out there and make it happen. If you want to meet someone, join clubs, do OLD, take the opportunity to meet as many people as possible.
I totally appreciate that it’s hard as a single parent to be able to get the opportunities to meet, and does depend on whether your ex has part custody, as to how much time you have to yourself.

As patronising at it may seem ,you are in control of when your time is.

I don't have all the box ticking fairy happy endings ( do have some ) but I ve never been more comfortable with myself.

This isn't because of a man / woman but because I ve taken responsibility for my happiness.

Apologies if this sounds like a day time TV talk show

Hope things get better for you all xx

I don't think there is such a thing as a happy 'ending'. Life has high points and low points. It's unlikely that meeting a man means happily every after. Hell, people win the lottery and still end up miserable.

Best just to go with the flow and try and enjoy the little things and the good times when they are good.

But right now I feel like I'm building up to a time I my life where there ìs opportunity for adventure and growth. So right now I'd say its 'my time' potentially. I hope there will be lots more times like that though because i realise good/exciting/interesting times cannot last forever. Life has ebbs and flows.

I agree with the poster said it’s in your hands. As long as finding a partner isn’t top of that list because that’s not something you can make happen.

But moving house, changing a job, starting a hobby, joining a club or society, starting a course, getting fit - all of that is entirely within your power and can lead to life changing events.

Good luck! Xx

I was finally genuinely happy single (not just saying I was) when I came back from a significant trip abroad on my own, full of pride in myself and a renewed sense of power and independence after a short abusive marriage and several misguided flings.

I met my (now) DH exactly a week later and he's the best person ever

Just to add, the point at which I met DH, was once I was in a much better place with my job. I left the hugely stressful one in order to set up my own business, and whilst it brought its own stresses at the outset, I’ve since doubled my salary, and never been happier career wise.
As others have said, ‘your time’ doesn’t necessarily have to be finding the right partner - it can come from other things too.

Saw this quote ages ago and it made me think: