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Am I Wrong?

10 replies

Katieg1009 · 04/07/2022 20:00

Hi,
I just need some opinions please. My other half and me are trying to get our relationship back on track and one of the things that’s affected my self confidence for a while is him liking and following girls he doesn’t know on Instagram …. Over 600 of them.
I wouldn’t mind if it was celebrities or influencers but these are girls who live in the area and some are 12 years younger than him/me.
Ive tried to explain how it makes me feel but he says he doesn’t care and said he will continue to do it.
I just don’t understand why he won’t stop if he knows how much it upsets me …. I said it makes me feel inadequate and that I’m never going to look like a 21 year old again - his response was : who’s fault is that.

Am I overreacting or do I have reason to be upset about this?

OP posts:
MammaWeasel · 04/07/2022 20:01

Red flags a-plenty there......do you really want to be with him?

PetersRabbitt · 04/07/2022 20:03

Whose fault is that!! What is it your fault then???

what an arsehole, seriously, there really are men out there that don’t do shit like this and would happily be coupled up with you so stop wasting your time with this one and go and look for them, his out there somewhere.

EvergreenForest · 04/07/2022 20:04

You have my very first LTB

You are worth more than this. Believe in yourself

LaingsAcidTab · 04/07/2022 20:05

Why are you with a man who quite clearly has no respect for you or for women in general?

MMmomDD · 04/07/2022 20:13

It doesn’t help you if we tell you you have a reason to be upset. You are not going to convince him to stop doing it because women on MN agree with you.

Generally - it seems you aren’t compatible and he is in some juvenile phase in his life and clearly not looking for a relationship.

As to you - you are in early 30s. You are young and beautiful and should not be letting his looking at women online affect your self confidence. He clearly has some sort of an issue - and I am guessing his self confidence is quite low - or he won’t be following these many women.

Your relationship doesn’t have much future. I’d move on and find a grownup.

Natty13 · 04/07/2022 20:20

It's disrespectful and frankly, if he would rather have total breakdown of your relationship over this and be single but freely able to perv on other women on social media then he is not a man worth having.

AhNowTed · 04/07/2022 20:21

He sounds about 15.

He's a creep OP.

knackersToIt · 04/07/2022 20:28

Just no, OP. That's an irredeemably awful way to behave all round, and I think you know that already.

winterchills · 04/07/2022 20:37

Ewww what an absolute creep. Get rid of him!!

IsThePopeCatholic · 04/07/2022 20:51

He’s a jerk. Bin him. Respect yourself and find someone who respects you too.

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