Ok I am all too aware that I am massively making something seem a much bigger thing than it is. So I'm putting my hard hat on for sage advice and a dollop of realism.
As briefly as I can (hey, there really isn't much to this!)
I matched with someone on OLD about a year ago, we hit it off on chat, he had recently separated and when I suggested meeting he got cold feet and said he wasn't ready.
Since then I've matched twice more with him on the apps, we've chatted, connected well, both acknowledged that neither of us is in the market for a big heavy relationship thing, but not met. The latest time we moved to whatsapp... but it fizzled out again without meeting, and the chat was closed gracefully and amicably, but with the 'door' ajar to reconnect.
Over this time I've definitely NOT been pining for him, I've dated and had one or two hookup things also. I think he's a bit flaky with the cold feet stuff and possibly has a kind of 'grass is always greener' attitude to his matches. BUT... I also can't help but be convinced that if we met we'd get on quite well and maybe have some fun times.
So, last night I go back onto Tinder and there he is. I swiped right.
My question - do I wait patiently and see if he swiped right on me.
Or, do I reopen the WhatsApp now, say I spotted him, and suggest we just go ahead and meet, on the basis that the worst that can happen is we have spent an hour together.
Or would that just seem way too stalkery...
(I may or may not already have written the draft message... 
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Ok Mumsnet, hard hat on, talk sense into me.