Kissing

[Justmeandme19]

O God I sound and feel like an idiot! Here goes.
I've met a really lovely man, this is the first time I've really dated since being in an abusive relationship. A relationship where my now ex husband used to tease me about "having to teach me how to kiss". I've now got a mental block over kissing this lovely new man.
We've been taking taking things very slowly and he is honestly a real gentleman, but how do I get over this? Anyone else been in this situation.

In what way did your ex think you couldn't kiss before he taught you?

Your ex was abusive.

Chances are there is absolutely nothing wrong with your kissing technique, he was just using that to make you insecure.

If you're really worried if you feel like you're getting close to kissing new man you could say 'It's been a long time since I've kissed anyone, I may be a little rusty' or something like that?

Let him kiss you first, then respond naturally.

As per pp, pretty sure there's nothing wrong with your technique.

First kisses are often a bit strange as you are both a bit hesitant and trying to figure out each other. You are both just hyper aware, so don't worry about it and follow his lead of you don't feel confident yourself.

Thank you all for the messages. Tbh I think it was just an asshxxe comment from my ex, to inflate his own ego.
I don't think he will try and kiss me first. He's reserved and obviously feels my nerves and doesn't push it. I mean we have kissed just not a proper kiss if you know what I mean.
Honestly you wouldn't believe I'm middle aged! I'm laughing at myself writing this.
But slightly more serious, it is very hard feeling confident to be romantic with someone after such a long time. Esp as my last experience was with someone who didn't treat you well.