I have been with my girlfriend for 12 months now , but there are issues which are really playing on my mind so would appreciate some advice .
im 46 and she is 49 , she has one daughter 28 who lives with her boyfriend , and she cares for her nephew who is 14 , the issue are I’m still being kept a secret from all her friends and family they all still think she is single , I only see her once or maybe twice a month if I’m lucky , I’ve only stayed at her house once and if I pick her up I have to meet her around the corner , I’m not allowed to phone when she is home because she says her nephew is about but she has told me many occasions how he just sits in his room playing his Xbox with his headphones on .
it was her birthday a couple of weeks ago so I booked a lovely lodge over looking the lake but then she cancelled it on the Friday saying her ex has covid and her parents are busy so can’t have him either, so I ended up losing over £200.. ( it was only one night Saturday)
she is out with friends ( male and female ) which I have no issue with , she has asked me to pick her up around 9 in Birmingham centre which I agreed to , but I suggested last night that she tell me where she is and I’ll pop in and have one drink before she leaves you can guess the answer which was no and said I’ll meet you outside greggs , this really annoyed me but I’ve kept my mouth shut ..
im going to speak to her tomorrow (Sunday) about how I’m feeling and it’s not a relationship I want , so I’m going to give her a ultimatum which will be tell people about me so we can progress the relationship if not it’s over .. do you think I’m right saying this as I’m a easy going kinda guy and don’t like pressure anyone but I’ve had enough now.