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Should I end things

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Pricey1976 · 02/07/2022 11:10

I have been with my girlfriend for 12 months now , but there are issues which are really playing on my mind so would appreciate some advice .
im 46 and she is 49 , she has one daughter 28 who lives with her boyfriend , and she cares for her nephew who is 14 , the issue are I’m still being kept a secret from all her friends and family they all still think she is single , I only see her once or maybe twice a month if I’m lucky , I’ve only stayed at her house once and if I pick her up I have to meet her around the corner , I’m not allowed to phone when she is home because she says her nephew is about but she has told me many occasions how he just sits in his room playing his Xbox with his headphones on .
it was her birthday a couple of weeks ago so I booked a lovely lodge over looking the lake but then she cancelled it on the Friday saying her ex has covid and her parents are busy so can’t have him either, so I ended up losing over £200.. ( it was only one night Saturday)
she is out with friends ( male and female ) which I have no issue with , she has asked me to pick her up around 9 in Birmingham centre which I agreed to , but I suggested last night that she tell me where she is and I’ll pop in and have one drink before she leaves you can guess the answer which was no and said I’ll meet you outside greggs , this really annoyed me but I’ve kept my mouth shut ..
im going to speak to her tomorrow (Sunday) about how I’m feeling and it’s not a relationship I want , so I’m going to give her a ultimatum which will be tell people about me so we can progress the relationship if not it’s over .. do you think I’m right saying this as I’m a easy going kinda guy and don’t like pressure anyone but I’ve had enough now.

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AnotherDelphinium · 02/07/2022 11:13

You call her your gf but the situation you describe is much more like a fwb. I think you need to decide what you want and what she’s prepared to offer.

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KangarooKenny · 02/07/2022 11:38

She is using you.

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Devotedcatslave · 02/07/2022 12:27

Are you sure she isn't married? It seems really odd and unnecessary for her to be keeping you secret like this. Either way I think you'd be right to end it. She is treating you poorly and you deserve better.

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Aquamarine1029 · 02/07/2022 12:29

Sounds like she has a partner and you aren't it. Why are you wasting your time like this? Dump via text and block.

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Pinkbonbon · 02/07/2022 12:35

My bet would be she has a partner too. Either way, you can't really call someone you only see once or twice per month (qnd whenever she needs a lift) a gf.

She's taking the piss. Don't bother with ultimatums op. A partner should want to show you off. She doesn't. Just dump.

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Inthesameboatatmo · 02/07/2022 12:40

She's got a partner most definitely. You should end it.

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Homewardbound2022 · 02/07/2022 17:30

I don't think there's anything to end.
Stop contacting her.

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PetersRabbitt · 06/07/2022 18:12

Your the other man. She has a partner and is having an affair with you. End it!

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