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Has he just told me he loves me?

30 replies

Feelingsillyandgiddy · 02/07/2022 06:25

Name changed as I’m 40 years old and feel completely silly!

been dating a man now for 6 months. It is going absolutely brilliantly.

I am definitely falling for him. We’ve gone through and come out the infatuation stage and I’d say we are at the vulnerable stage where we are opening up to each other.

The words have not been said yet but they definitely linger in the air and I feel it in the way he looks at me. The last week he’s made a couple of comments that made me think. We are both keen gardeners and whilst sat in mine he asked what would happen if we one day shared a garden? He’s also mentioned looking forward to a time we can wake up together (all years away but it’s nice to know he’s thinking it too)

Anyway. I’ve woken up this morning to the love heart ❤️ Emoji from him. No words, just this. I must say my heart did skip a little beat! Is this telling me he’s there, in his own way? Or am I completely overthinking this? He often sends 🥰 but never the heart.

thank you and sorry for being so pathetic 🤣 I want to send it back but don’t want to make a fool of myself!

OP posts:
Jewelanemone · 02/07/2022 06:27

Send it back to him! 😊

girlmom21 · 02/07/2022 06:32

Stop overthinking it. It's cute. Enjoy it and reciprocate if you want to!

Feelingsillyandgiddy · 02/07/2022 06:38

I have sent it back and am enjoying it greatly! I just don’t want to think the word is out there if it isn’t 😬

OP posts:
Jewelanemone · 02/07/2022 06:40

Feelingsillyandgiddy · 02/07/2022 06:38

I have sent it back and am enjoying it greatly! I just don’t want to think the word is out there if it isn’t 😬

He wouldn't have sent it if he didn't mean it. 🙂

WomanHere · 02/07/2022 06:53

It is sweet but it isn’t the same as saying I love you imo. When I use the love heart emoji I personally am not saying ‘I love you’. But I’m also in my 40s so have no idea!

SmileyPiuPiu · 02/07/2022 06:57

I don't know, people put heart emojis everywhere these days., photos of peoples lunch etc. But yes I think he probably loves you, but I'd still want him to say it at some point!

toobusytothink · 02/07/2022 07:04

Awww well it’s not “I love you” but clearly it’s a symbol of love and it sounds as though he does or is certainly falling in love. Enjoy!

ibelieveinmirrorballs · 02/07/2022 07:05

Come on OP - this is not the same as saying 'I love you'. It IS lovely, but it's not that. Also, how on earth could you feel stupid sending back the same emoji that he's sent you?

What I think you're doing here is interpreting it as 'I love you' and then sending back the same thinking that he's going to interpret YOUR emoji as I love you and then worrying that he doesn't love you. It's a tiny bit mad - ie you're thinking that he'll know you've over-interpreted it. But how can you if you're just responding in kind?!

It's all lovely though - enjoy it! (Why is 'waking up together' years away?)

mosesbass · 02/07/2022 07:20

Love this!

anybloodyname · 02/07/2022 07:21

Don't overthink words or emoji's

Focus entirely on actions

He is making you happy , enjoy every moment and long may it continue

user1471548941 · 02/07/2022 07:32

Awwww OP your tale of gradually growing closer and the relationship progressing reminds me of my DP; he’s currently snoozing next to me as my husband of 4 months with our cat!

it took him 8 months to actually say the words and like you, they lingered, but actually I felt that he loved me a long, long time before he said it!

he’s still the most reliable, dependable man I’ve ever met- enjoy!!!

Lalosalamanca · 02/07/2022 07:35

Op, you are the cutest member of mumsnet. I genuinely love this thread ❤

Aprilx · 02/07/2022 07:40

It is nice and sounds like things are going well. But to your question no, I would not interpret this as “I love you”. Not that he doesn’t, I have no idea of course, but he hasn’t said it.

Daisydoesnt · 02/07/2022 07:43

OP forget the emoji. If you love him, tell him, to his face. It’s as simple as that. Enjoy this very special time it sounds like you are making each other very happy.

ladydoris · 02/07/2022 07:55

Wait for it. It's a love heart. The premise of something to come.

Onlyrainbows · 02/07/2022 08:02

My now DH told me via text (no emojis though) I still have a screenshot of it!

LadyCampanulaTottington · 02/07/2022 08:08

You’ve warmed my cockles this morning OP. What a lovely, sweet thread!!

TheVolturi · 02/07/2022 08:10

He loves you! Sounds like he's a bit scared to actually say it in case you don't respond in the same way.

stuntbubbles · 02/07/2022 08:12

Do you love him? No reason you can’t say the words first! I was the first to say it to DP.

vdbfamily · 02/07/2022 08:19

I think he loves you. Some guys will throw around the ILY freely and others not. I have been married 20 years and could probably count on one hand how many times those 3 words have been said by my DH, but he shows me he cares and we are very happy together so do not put too much importance on actually hearing out said. He is talking about a future together and you have been taking things slowly and thoughtfully. It all sounds positive to me.

Whatliesbeneath707 · 02/07/2022 08:38

I think it sounds like he is testing the waters to check if you feel the same & this is totally normal. We don't want to feel things are one sided or embarrass ourselves. The only way to find out is to ask him what he meant by the heart. Maybe an open conversation around plans for the future will help to clarify things OP. It sounds like you are both on the same page - enjoy every minute.

BlueSuffragette · 02/07/2022 08:56

Enjoy it OP. Sounds like you are both falling in love. ♥️ Long may it continue with many happy times ahead. xx

cottagegardenflower · 02/07/2022 10:18

Sit for 5 minutes. List all the things you like/love about this man. Rate the sex. Look at the financial side long term. Look at how you see a future with him. Look at any faults which may cause future issues.

If it is all on the positive side, message him and say you think you're falling in love with him ❤️

Don't hang around, life is short.

ChangedForThisCause · 02/07/2022 10:20

This made me all glowy inside.

How lovely.

Motnight · 02/07/2022 10:21

Lovely thread. Enjoy Op 😁