Help!!

[Anonlove]

Hi, I need advice! I’m not one to ever talk about my business to family or friends.

So my husband and I have been together for 8 years and he’s a wonderful husband and father to our 2 year old and newborn. So most of our marriage he’s barely been working in warehouse or security to provide which is great but I’ve always pushed him to pursue in a career and get a secure job. I’m a fully qualified nurse with a masters so I’ve been motivating him for the past 8 years of our marriage.

However, he’s currently unemployed and I’m on Mat leave and really don’t want to go back to work as my hands are full with my children. He’s been obsessed with Crypto and taking loans out to put into Crypto to increase the money. He hasn’t worked in months and heavily relies on Crypto. We lost £30K completely a couple of weeks ago and he’s more eager to gain it back. He’s always telling me we’ll be fine and as long as he pays the bills, I shouldn’t be worried. We are struggling financially and my maternity is barely paying for anything at all. I don’t know what to do as he’s reality has become crytpto and nothing else. It seems he’s not interested to work or make a proper living. Am I over reacting? Can you really rely on crypto?

No you're not over reacting - this is insane! 30k? He's a gambling addict op, just in a different way.

Im so sorry, this must be incredibly tough on you, especially with a newborn but you need to sort this asap! He can make a start on getting the 30k back in the most sensible way - get a job!

Make your boundaries firm and clear with him, otherwise he's going to continue walking all over you.

Hugs

He is a gambling addict.

You need to ring-fence your money as fast as possible op. If you have q joint account then move the month out of it to yours.

What about the House, is it owned? If so then you need to find a way to stop him gambling that away.

Do all you can to cut your financial ties with him and protect your money and home.

After that, he needs to get help for his addiction. But you'd be perfectly wise and justified not to hang around for that. It's likely that only hitting the rock bottom of you leaving will make him realise he has a problem.

Protect yourself and your baby first and foremost. Don't let him gamble away your child's future.

*move the money out of it into yours

Not over-reacting at all. This is serious.

• It is a kind of gambling addiction and can't possibly end well.
• Crypto is risky, and definitely not a substitute for paid work.
• You need to be clear about your boundaries and protect your money.

He'll gamble away your children's future. He's in that dangerous phase of chasing his losses. It will get worse. Please ring fence all your assets. Be careful though, because as you are married you can be jointly liable for some debts. He needs to get a job.

‘We lost 30k’ no HE lost 30k. You will end up picking up all the pieces if you don’t pack your bags and leave.

They say that crypto is a transformative technology. And it truly is, I’ve never seen it transform so many gambling addicts and gullible suckers into poor people.

Get your husband help, because he’s clearly totally clueless and cannot be trusted with finances.

He lost £30k and you think you might be over reacting? Are you actually serious?

He lost 30K?

That would be a marriage ender for me.