Online Daters - Have you noticed this?

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I've been online dating on and off for quite a few years. Just recently I've noticed hints from men I am chatting to (haven't even met) about coming round to my house for a first date.

I've heard stories of men being invited round to ladies houses for first dates. Is this a thing now? I've been propositioned before while on a date but can't remember having these suggestions before.

I would never invite someone I hadn't met round to my place.

They are cheeky cheapskates who don't want to invest any money into meeting up at a bar or cafe. They are also hoping to get a quick shag. Or they could have more sinister motives like assault, robbery or all sorts. These are strangers and you never know who they are at the start. Only someone indifferent to risk, or really desperate for attention would agree to such a shabby offer.

I've been OLD on and off for years and never encountered this.

I've had a few invites of me going to theirs but never taken the offer up.
I think men would normally suggest this than ladies dating unless it's just a hook up.

I've had this a few times. I block them.

I’ve never had this. I find they usually ask for a home date on a third date though - and I know exactly what they’re asking for!

I've had suggestions like "I could travel
to see you and either I stay at your place or I get a hotel" or "I was in the area, I should have come round".

Even if I wanted something casual I wouldn't ask someone I hadn't met to come round. Imagine trying to get rid of them if they were awful or putting yourself at risk!

I have had suggestions like this, wanting me to to theirs or them come to mine. One even suggested in a message that he could come over but as he lived a fair drive away he could stay over. We had never met!

What baffles me is why they think it is a reasonable suggestion and seem shocked when you don't go for it. Presumably some women do?

I don't have any issues with casual sex. It's the safety aspect that concerns me. Always meet in a public place until you've got them figured out.

It's not safe at all!

If anyone hints at this call them out or just block them completely.

Im no longer doing OLD but did it for a few years

I found it t was common. I don't have any friends who woild put themselves in danger this way

Always meet in a public place the first time

This is it exactly - why do they think it is a reasonable suggestion.

I know of two men that went round to women's places and they couldn't get away fast enough!

I'll stick to a first date coffee or drink

I would never invite someone I haven't met round to my home, or to pick me up for a date.

I've also never shagged someone on a first date, but if I was to it would be because it was something I wanted to do - not just because they wanted to.

I think some guys treat OLD as a resource of unpaid hookers.