How do I meet someone new in my 50's

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I don't drink, so can't go to pubs like in the olden days when I was young.

I'm on Plenty of Fish, but how do you meet someone when you don't go out drinking in your 50's and find yourself starting again?

I’m in my 50s and have been single 6 years now. I dabble with online dating but my heart really isn’t in it. Meet Up is a good website for getting out and about. I have joined various groups for walking, pub quizzes and even a psychology group once. Have met some interesting people but not the one yet. I also tried Ceroc dancing for a while which was good fun.

How about something like running club, walking group, or cycling

Thanks hadn't really thought of that, I'll see whats available locally.

walking group sounds a good idea

Local Facebook groups. Do you like being outdoors? I find there are lots of single men on outdoor weekend events.

I think @Feelingfree is going about it the right way. I'd think about yourself first and what you want to be spending your time doing - think about your interests and ambitions and what you enjoy doing - if you like gardening get an allotment - they are very friendly places in my experience. If you want to do something creative go to some evening classes for painting, making furniture or even learning a language or cooking - if you want to improve your fitness try a dance class perhaps or definitely a local walking group - I would put yourself in those places doing things that you enjoy - that way you might meet someone doing things you also enjoy and can talk about - a book club perhaps. I wouldn't even think of going to someone simply with the aim of meeting someone - at least you would be spending your time doing things that you would be getting something out of - I guess you might not know exactly what you want to do with your time - well - now's the time to really think about yourself and what you want. You don't want to spend X years simply looking for someone to date do you - surely you want to be able to look back on your precious life, your precious time and reflect on all the good things you did that mattered to you or interested you.

I think the most attractive people in life are those that are comfortable in their own skin - happy following their own dreams, not dressing to impress anyone, just enjoying being themselves and not thinking about how to impress anyone else.

Its a different way of looking at it so I'm really glad I posted. I did meet someone who I thought was my soulmate on POF but sadly it's gone belly up after two and half wonderful years and 6 very crappy months.

I'm feeling a bit lost and adrift at the moment so these are really great ideas. Thanks.

Depends what kind of “in your 50s” person you are. I also don’t drink but have been OLD using apps like Tinder, OKCupid, Feeld. I’ve had some brilliant dates going hiking, clubbing, out to watch jazz, to see gigs, restaurants, walks round parks, etc etc.

Its all out there and I’ve felt no real difference because I’m either a) 52 or b) that I’m sober. Good luck!

Now that is my kind of in my 50's :-)

I haven't heard of OLD and keep seeing in on the boards, does it have an additional meaning or a type of dating for us oldies?

OLD. On line dating

Do any couples meet in the pub these days?

ahhhh light bulb goes on. Doh at myself lol

Thank you

Met my ex husband there, not doing that again :-)

Seriously I don't drink so it's not an option for me as I don't want to meet a drinker. That's what you'll get in a pub.

Honestly I haven't got a clue either. I'm in my early 30s, 3 children and no contact with the father ( I have tried to get him involved with the children but he doesn't want to engage at all) I have been raising 3 children on my own for 5 years and I do not have a night off how am I meant to meet someone? Not for anything else but to be a companionship? It would really be nice just to speak to a male who isn't part of my family. What do I do?

A friend of mine is 50, and has met a lovely man on Tinder, she is very happy, but please be careful OP, lots of scammers with OLD but it does work out for some people, including my DS who met his gf also on Tinder. Good luck

I'm not a drinker and met my also non-drinking boyfriend through a dating app. Obviously it's a bit of a slog to find someone decent and a good match but there are some out there.

But I second the suggestion of activities IRL you'd enjoy anyway, dance class, walking club, concerts?

What are your interests?

My lovely friend in her 60s met a very nice man at the local walking club.

I would honestly steer clear of POF…I’m in my 40s and trying OLD. I didn’t get on with OK Cupid (I had some interesting suggestions - lots of people are “polys”, men looking for subs and a few transvestites! Fine if you’re into that kind of thing but I’m really not!). I like Bumble and Hinge. I’m also looking at Meet up. There’s quite a few different social activities on their like meals, bowling..might less intense for you meeting a group of people and seeing if you click with anyone rather than jumping straight into a date. My Dad met someone in his 50s through a local walking group.