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First date nerves

8 replies

savebuckbeak · 01/07/2022 18:39

Going on a date with someone from OLD. First date in about 2 years and very very nervous. The past year has been a difficult time for me which has led to a bit of a knock in confidence, but I think I'm ready. But one thing that does seem to happen to me on dates where I'm nervous is that I completely freeze up and forget everything interesting/fun about myself and just come across as really dull! He seems like a lovely guy (from the chat on the app). He's doing a PhD in history, likes learning languages, likes cooking vegetarian food, etc.

Any tips on stuff to chat about, or things to ask him or topics to bring up? Just want to be able to put my best foot forward. Thanks.

OP posts:
Ariel890s · 01/07/2022 18:40

Hey just relax and enjoy it he will prob be nervous too enjoy! Xxx

Mememene · 01/07/2022 18:58

Just remember you have nothing to lose and be yourself. It's just a first date, good luck, relax and enjoy.

CrazyRatLover · 01/07/2022 19:16

Just be yourself, relax and smile lots! Maybe ask him what music he likes, what period of history he likes etc. Hopefully he's an interesting person and asks about you, pretend you're talking to one of your friends!

CousinKrispy · 01/07/2022 19:24

Just do your best. I'm finally at an age where I don't mind saying outright "I'm socially awkward!" to a new acquaintance and chances are they are feeling awkward too. Show a genuine interest in what he has to say. Enjoy!

SummerHouse · 01/07/2022 19:33

Just treat this as a test run. No expectations. Just a step back into the game. Have a few questions in the bag.
Films?
Sports?
Hobbies?
Job?
Favourite foods?
Good luck.
Don't give too much of your heart. OLD is known for people being dicks. So just hold back a little. I think if you treat it like you would if you were meeting a new colleague. Be genuine, friendly, engaging etc. But don't fall for him. Let him prove himself. You are worth it.

SummerHouse · 01/07/2022 19:39

Oh and places you / he have been. A good one if he is into learning languages.

Redberries85 · 02/07/2022 07:06

How did it go?!

Catlover1970 · 02/07/2022 08:30

Dates a terrifying. I was going to cry off an OLD 14 years ago - good job I didn’t. I thought I would clam up etc but when the chemistry is instant the conversation will flow. Relax, large glass of vino and go with the flow. I married him

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