I’m scared he will go back to her

[Zaya]

My boyfriend lives about 2 hours away. We only get to see each other at the moment about twice a month. Currently we don’t have any plans to close this gap which is an issue we agreed to talk about in person.

I’ve found out his new job will be directly over the road of his ex girlfriend who I know he loved very much. I’m not really sure why but it feels like the end of us. It’s inevitable they will see each other. I feel like this will be the end of us. I want to talk to him, but I don’t want to be crazy. I’m crying because I feel like I need to end it before I get hurt. What do I do

sorry you’re feeling this way 🌻

as gently as possible- what’s the point in this relationship? You see each other 2x per month and it’s obviously causing you pain. I know it’s much easier said than done but I’d honestly end it.

he’s taken a new job which he’ll obviously be planning on staying at for a while which is 2 hours away from you. If he wanted to be closer to you to move forward, he’d surely have discussed this with you and looked for something close by or discussed you moving to him?

how long have you been together? X

I’m also wondering how long you have been together and if there is a future plan? To move nearer to each other so you can see each other more.
Also the ex girlfriend may have moved/changed jobs since he was with her??
Unless your thinking one of the perks for him is being closer to her? Personally I wouldn’t be comfortable working that closely to an ex but I guess it depends on the set up. Busy main road/industrial estate/high street etc you could go months without bumping into someone in a busy area.

So he lives 2 hours away and has decided to get a new job that will still be about 2 hours away?

The issue with long-distance relationships is that they rarely work unless you have some kind of set deadline for when long-distance will end. I've done long-distance in the past and would never do it again. Rarely seeing someone is hard, and it also makes you overthink everything, such as his ex being across the road, which may or may not end up being perfectly innocent.