First love

[Demodoll]

I'll make this short. My first love was 17 and I was 16. He was crazy over me. I left him when I went to Uni.
I could tell he was not happy. Yep, 48 years and two (his) marriages later I contacted him. We texted 3 months but he said he made a vow, blah blah and his wife is wonderful, blah blah. Sorry but this was karma.
All I wanted to know was I was special to him at one time. And yes, he remembered.
Anyone know if they feel the same?
I don't want to break up a marriage but he was not thrilled with my life since school days😪

Don't be such a dick. If it was 'meant to be' you'd have stayed together.

You're thrilled and complimented. Do not ruin someone else's marriage.

And if you're bored or sad with your life - maybe do something worthwhile. A man is not an achievement

I don't want to break up a marriage but he was not thrilled with my life since school days😪

I don't quite understand this comment.

Should he be thrilled with your life ?

We texted 3 months but he said he made a vow, blah blah and his wife is wonderful, blah blah. Sorry but this was karma

And you are 64 ?

Is there a Beatles punchline at the end of this.

Stop spamming the whole site with this. It is literally ancient history.

Are they really married? I wouldn't want to break up a happy marriage either, but am confused.

Get a grip.

You're 60 odd years old, the man has TOLD you he's not interested, he's made vows to his wife etc and you're still wondering if you should try and break up his marriage to get back the boyfriend you had when you were a teen.

You're not a teen. This is not going to make you a teen again. It's going to make you a desperate older lady who's stuck in the past and a bit bloody weird. Not romantic. Weird. Do you want to be that lady?

i was told he’s not interested? Ok. Maybe you’re thinking I’m someone else. Not a teen when we met, both in our early 40s, 6 months apart in age. Thought we loved each other. Could swear I hear that l, and I do really love him.

What on Earth?!

Leave this man and wife alone, and move on.

get a grip? On what? Just stop all feelings for what I’ve lived and loved for many years? I’m struggling and feel like I’m drowning. Please talk to me

Crikey, back off, this is cringey. He's moved on, even if you were super special to him back then, it was a long time ago. I'm 55 and think very fondly if some ex boyfriends, would I leave dh for them, not on your life!

You need to get some therapy

Leave them alone?? WE LIVE TOGETHER and have for many years.

Hang on, you messaged a man you went out with as a teenager almost fifty years ago and you expected him to leave his marriage for you, just because he’d been sad you ditched him when he was seventeen???

I'm so confused 🤔are there two threads going on here?
First op....he has told you he is happily married, back off with your dignity intact and find out what is missing in your life that you had to go back forty years to try to find it.
4 Non Blondes....do you need your own thread?

He’s moved on? News to me. We’re in the same room and live together, spent whole day together. Today- “I love you, there’s nobody else.” 😔💔 We went out to get dinner today, his favorite. How many of you know what place?

Not me - no part of that

No thank you, logging off. Can’t stop crying. Thank you anyway. All I want is my boyfriend back, why stay with me, tell me things, do everything together, share every single day together, then fly off with a vegan when your extra rare steak is never rare enough? And your every day “you” is not acceptable?

I don’t have a clue what’s going on here. Has the OP had a name change fail? Who’s in which room?

Weird ….
name change fail or two threads. Either way I can’t work out a thing going on here 😂

I'm not understanding this thread either.

Anyway. If you're pining over someone from years ago get some therapy.
Someone you knew at 17 is a stranger now. They're not the same person at all.

As a PP said, a man is not an achievement and no man is going to make you have a happy life. If you're unhappy, do something about it. Therapy! Do things and spend time with friends and family that you enjoy. Find some meaningful volunteer work. Go back to school. Get a different career. Travel. Take up painting or dance.

Those are the kind of things that bring joy and create a happy life, not some man from 100 years ago.

I don’t get this thread either! Had a look as a close friend has just had her ex from her teens get in contact with her and declare his undying love effectively after years of therapy. It’s shaken her world completely and made her realise it is time to leave her marriage. Not for him, he’s the other side of the world but because it is the right thing for her. Was interested to read experiences on here but now very confused with what I have read.

Is his name Aidan? Does he work at M&S?
We've even had steak mentioned now!

@4NonBlondes2022 most people who don't tag you are replying to the OP, you're getting yourself and everyone else confused. Make your own thread.