Just wanted a bit of perspective and to consider whether I’m being unreasonable or not. Ex and I separated about 12 years ago. He has gradually dropped down what he pays me in child maintenance for our two children until it’s now £180 a month (and had been for the past 7 years). I know he earns £45-50,000 a year. He has our children 2-3 nights a fortnight. I haven’t really quibbled this amount as it’s not worth the energy, although I know that if I went through the CMS he should pay me a lot more (he started off paying me £360 a month and had them a lot more). Anyway, I save money each month for my children and have done since their birth, despite earning a pittance at the time. The current issue is that he’s told my children about this (which ideally I didn’t really want them to know, as I don’t want them reliant on receiving money when they become adults), but he’s twisted it a bit to say ‘your mum and I have been saving for you since you were born, she saves some of the money I give her’. This has angered me a bit as he has had no involvement with this, but has now made it sound like he’s some sort of hero. I suppose technically maybe some of his money goes towards this as it’s all in one pot once it goes into my bank account, so I don’t know if I’m being precious and overreacting about it. It’s feels like he’s after the glory though, when really he’s shortchanged me for years. Any thoughts?