Blackmailing ex

[CH4R7]

So my alcoholic ex has finally decided to leave me after 7 years of crap. Over the years he's broken into every place I live and sold anything worth having. He's now dosing down in my house once again which he didn't have keys to he's just smashed the window and got in. He's left food rotting all over there's fly's he's squashed them with my pillow (not his) he ran out of toilet roll so used my clothes to wipe his ass there's alcohol bottles all over he left the upstairs window open where there's a birds nest so now there's s**t all over the floor and window. The list goes on. He's blown up 4 people's gardens while drunk which the police are looking at arson and he gets away with everything. I'm not living at my home because of him and now he's blackmailing me if I don't give him money he'll tell the world my secrets and which It could get me into trouble. He'll cancel my car insurance cos he put me on a joint one so I could afford it. There's a lot more but I'll be here forever I really just wanted a rant and get things of my chest because I have no friends anymore cos of him. I just feel like running away. If you've read this thanks for listening hope I didn't bore you to much.

Omg I'm so sorry. Why have you put up with his shit for so long? Tell him he can do what he likes and say what he likes you don't care. I wouldn't believe an alcoholic anyway. Are you safe? Honestly my blood boils thinking about these horrible men who try to manipulate women.

Be logical about this. Who would you believe? A alcoholic or a person who is not? I’m sure no one would believe him so all you have to do is say his lying. I wouldn’t let something like that keep me from leaving.

Yes I'm safe I'm with a relative although that doesn't stop he's tried kicking this door down but at least I have a witness here. I've phoned the police before they say I have no proof he broke in he's done the same kinda stuff to his mother and he was in the paper wanted but then she didn't turn up at court like I said he gets away with everything even the police feel sorry for him when he turns on the water works. His last ex has an indefinite restraining order on him but I don't know what he did to her. He's relentless he never stops till he gets what he wants sometimes I give in just cos I can't take anymore I just want peace. I sound like a right whinger I just need to get it off my chest release the stress. Sorry people.

Don't allow him to blackmail you because where will it end? Do you want to live your entire life in constant fear of that?

He clearly needs help and you need to get away from him.

I don't know what he's blackmailing you over but depending on the severity of the situation, you can either deny everything, or you just come clean with whatever it is. That way, he becomes totally powerless over you.

The police say you have no proof he broke in?! But he’s THERE isn’t he? Isn’t that proof? He’s there in YOUR house and you want him removed.

If it's your house in your name and he's there then call the police!

It's catching him the house he comes and goes and they said it pointless finger printing the place cos he's been allowed in before. I'm not staying in the house because anyone can get in now so he's harder to catch.

He's left forensic evidence all over the place!

Why can't you get a restraining order too?

Can you afford to get a Ring? You can then catch him entering your house on camera. Call the police and get a restraining order in place.

Seriously, you need to go mental at the police. It’s their fucking job to remove squatters, not feel bad for them. They must have run into him if they feel so sorry for this criminal, so why didn’t they remove him then? This isn’t OK, this is YOUR house, take it back.

Here's an update. I phoned a womans aid and asked if they can help get me a restraining order because he's been hassling me again and they already had all my details which I didn't give them so assuming the police did. They said I'll put you on the waiting list for someone to call u but its a long list so I said ok I'll wait. Then a few days later I'm driving down the road and my ex is walking to the lights to cross the road I slowed down but had no exits to turn then he seen me so come towards the car stood In front of it and starts shouting at me and banged on the windscreen. Other cars are beeping at him but he shouts abuse at them to not one person stopped to help. He starts banging on the windscreen again but my car is old and it was wobbling I thought any minute it's gunna go through so I started beeping my horn then luckily enough a police van came up the road they put the lights on and he ran off. They didn't chase him they just pulled me to one side asked what happened asked all my details. my son was in the car so they asked for his details and that was it so I guarantee the school and social services will have had call and he's got me the hassle of explaining myself to them again while he's drinking away and laughing at me.

Well then you can tell social services that he is harassing you and they are not helping you

Do you work? Is there a reason you need to stay in the area?

Re the house can you get it sealed up and a camera put in to get the evidence it's him? Do you own it? Are your neighbours friendly? Would they be prepared to film him and give it to the police so he will finally get into trouble and fuck off their doorstep?