Colleague told me to F off today

[Dieselfungus]

In front of the whole office. Still reeling tbh. How would your organisation handle this?

I suggest none of you ever contemplate a carrier in the construction industry ....

Career even ffs 😂

Personally I would just put it down to stress and move on.

Not acceptable, you should complain.

I hate attitudes like this. Why should anyone tolerate being sworn at? It doesn't make you "tougher" or anything, it just make it a shittier place to work.

The one man that did it to me got fired.

Tbh I have a colleague who is going to be told to f off at some point in the next week. They don't realise what an utter passive aggressive idiot they are. Every time someone says something, they've seen it, done it, made it, had an uncle, aunt, brother, friend of a friend had it amongst other things. They'realso the only person to do any work, they sticky beak into every conversation, they tell everyone exactly what work they've done and mention loudly within earshot of the bosses anything that can get anyone into trouble. It's irritating.

Your version is you were asking something normal...is it possible that that wasn't what the other person thought.

I think my work would be concerned for both people, rather than straight to disciplinary.

I would not want the other person sacked for that.

This is not ok. I would tell the person that you are going to HR about it. If you do nothing the other person thinks it is ok. You have been humiliated and disrespected in front of everyone and this is not acceptable.

You should of just said “ok then I won’t offer to help in future” and don’t.

In my industry, unless you were both senior, they would just be sacked if there were witnesses. Zero tolerance for aggression in 2022. More complicated if no witnesses/admission of guilt.

Senior --> senior tolerated/expected
Senior --> junior immediate fire no excuses
Junior --> junior immediate fire unless real extenuating circumstances

Why would verbal abuse from senior staff be tolerated more than from junior staff

I agree it's worth thinking about the outcome you want. Was it really out of character if they were stressed?

I once said something along the lines of "oh I wish x team would F off" in private to a manager, I was stressed to the point of tears. She gave me a gentle warning on not using that kind of language at work/speaking about colleagues like that but didn't pursue it further given she knew I was stressed and it was unlike me.

Could you ask for an apology as others have suggested and/or ask your manager to have a firm word? Sacking seems really harsh but equally they owe you a genuine apology and your managers should make clear speaking to colleagues like that is not okay.

Hope you are okay xxx