I'm breaking my own heart

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I was married for 20 years, cheated on under my nose . He left, took up with ow and left me with our three special children.
I deal with the fall out every so for day.
I met an amazing committed man a year later. He had shown
Me nothing but kindness, commitment and love.
Yet still I can't trust. Anyone . Not even me . I've had loads of therapy and am still with my therapist but I expect him to leave me like every other man has done.
I'm ruining it all by picking
Holes, doubting him , looking for him to fail me .
Help , please before I mess this up.

Do you think maybe seeing a new therapist might help? Different therapists work slightly differently so it may be worth switching things up a bit.

Do you have any hobbies? Any sports you enjoy? It is a good idea to focus on yourself and remind yourself why you're great.

Your self-esteem has understandably taken a huge knock. Please don't let one man have such a hold on your future. You deserve happiness. Your new guy is obviously great. It may be worth talking to him as well and explaining to him what you're going through.

My first thought was that a new relationship only a year after your split and all the consequences of that, is too much for you. You're not ready. Simple as that. He could be perfect but now's not the right time. Tell him how you're feeling and maybe scale it back a bit. If he's truly that great, he'll understand and be patient.

You're not ready for a relationship, and you are not being fair to your new boyfriend. Set him free so he can find a healthier relationship.