Confused and need some advice on partner

[Andy1988]

Hi. Just joined this as could do with some advice so here goes.
im 33 male and my 34 female partner has just ended our relationship after a holiday abroad for 10 nights. We had planned to get a home together and be a proper family but I think the 10 nights together has scared her as we had some silly falling outs. It’s been two weeks since she ended it and I’ve done the chasing etc but she’s having none of it but then said let’s have no contact for 4 weeks and see what happens after. Anyway few days later i broke this and we ended up talking on the phone. She tells me now that she finds women attractive and abs has done for years but has always held it in and she is now not finding men attractive so I’m completely lost with what to think? Is she thinking give it a month and see if the grass is greener and if not maybe I’m for her after all? We’ve been together for 2 and half years and she does love me as I do her but this has knocked me back a bit as I didn’t see it coming. Any sensible advice and replies is appreciated. Thank you

Leave her be and walk away. She's pretty much telling you she's gay so maybe you could stay friends but if you're after more, I wouldn't bother. I get it must be a shock for you though after 2.5 years but from her point of view sexuality can be hard and confusing to process.

Unfortunately sometimes relationships end when we don’t want them to. You say you “have been doing all the chasing” but I don’t see that any chasing needed to be done here, she ended it. I think she is trying to buy some time by mentioning no contact for four weeks, I expect she is hoping you will get used to the idea of it. You will do better with a clean break.

Leave her alone. She’s been clear and you need to respect that.

Yeah my idea now is to leave her the space she requires to figure things out for herself. She’s been very up and down during the time together but didn’t know she had these feelings for women

She's ended it and you didn't respect her decision and were chasing her.

She then asked you for no contact for 4 weeks and you didn't respect her request and a "few days later i broke this".

She has now told you she thinks she is a lesbian and you're thinking she maybe just needs a few weeks "to see if the grass is greener".

She couldn't really be much clearer pal.

Which part of "no I don't want to be in a relationship with you any more" don't you understand?