Would you give a second chance?

[Friendorfoe00]

I bumped into an old 'friend' of mine from years ago this morning and during a brief chat she expressed wanting to meet up for coffee.
However here is my dilemma... whilst we were in contact she was an extremely hostile person and would go from liking you one moment to hating you the next. When she was being nice there was no better friend and she did help me through a tough time just as I helped her through a lot. She backstabbed me a lot and caused friendships to breakdown between me and others, even though I tried to explain that I had said/done nothing, she also did the reverse and slated others to me. She also said some rather horrid things about me to our boss (worked in same office) and our boss ended up slagging me off also. I challenged the boss for being unprofessional and although recieved an apology I decided to leave immediately.
It did hit me hard and ultimately made the decision to cut contact with her.
She stalked my house a while after and would sit outside in her car, she sent multiple messages, some apologising but then immediately after a nasty one. So I blocked her number.
We moved house shortly after so this all stopped and I never bumped into her until today.
I have asked my DH and mum and they have their reservations.
She seemed nice and chatty today but then she was when we first met all those years ago.

So I just wondered from an outside perspective what you would do? Do I go for a coffee or just leave it?

[Friendorfoe00]

@MsCactus
Thank you for your reply and it's nice to hear your experience. Sorry you had to got through that it is completely awful.

[layladomino]

Nope I would steer a long way clear.

It is very unlikely that she has changed (if she had had an amazing moment of realisation and was sorry for what she'd done, she would have been in touch to try to put things right, or might have apologised when she saw you, or at the very least would have looked uncomfortable and embarassed.).

And you can't risk getting back in touch if she hasn't changed. She sounds awful. She sounds really vile and her impact on your life was huge. Don't risk going there again.

[MsCactus]

@Friendorfoe00 thanks, I felt obliged to comment because the experiences sounded so similar 😅