Confused

[Conpuzzled]

Hi Everyone,

just after some advice really. I had been single for 2.5years, I recently started talking to someone I work with, he’s a few years younger than I am. It all started off well and he kept telling me how he had feelings for me but now he seems to be pulling away. Why do they do this? I’m feeling like an old fool

Sounds to me like he enjoys the attention and the thrill of the chase

'They' don't do anything. He's not on a team.

Sometimes people are interested, and then they're not. You will have done it yourself with things... 'I agreed to go to the cinema because I really fancied it, and now I just want to stay in.'

People do this because they're human, and feelings aren't linear.

The question is really why you're making someone else's behaviour a measure of your self esteem.

Men like a chase. I guarantee that if you pull back a little, he'll come running again. The question is, do you want to play those games? Or do you want someone who is sure of what they want?

His actions are not a reflection of you. Remind yourself of that. Don't let someone have that much power of your opinion of yourself.