Has anyone tried swinging?

[Littlelollipopxo]

Looking for positive stories on couples who have ventured down the swinging route, not full swap, but soft threesomes involving another woman?

No. It will end in tears. Yours, not his.

What makes you say that @TortugaRumCakeQueen ?

I’ve never heard of a positive outcome.

And I know if one person, a friend of mine, where it ended very, very badly.

Sometimes you just need to accept that a relationship is over.

So he wants to shag someone else and you’re thinking of allowing it or Are you bisexual and this is your desire?

Look, I'm quite old, and I've seen all sorts. In my opinion, women are normally persuaded to try these things for the benefit of their male partner. He might even make you think you really want it.

I think you're going to feel pretty shit watching your partner have sex with another woman, whilst you lie next to them like a spare prick at a wedding.

I also think that once you've given him this green light, it will open the flood gates to so much more. Him having a ONS when he's out with the lads? Why not? You didn't mind when he had sex with that threesome woman. One vagina is much the same as the next - what's the difference?

If this threesome is him, you and another woman, when is the threesome happening with him, you and hairy Mike?

If he wants to shag an array of other women, wave him off and wish him well.

Unless all of this was your idea of course......

I agree with @TortugaRumCakeQueen it'll desensitize him so that he will be more likely to do stuff behind your back. Stuff that you don't know about that you haven't consented to. In his brain he won't make the difference between the two. Yes, one vagina is much the same as the next for him then.

I watched a documentary on this a few nights ago
Couples and singles attending a swinging hotel event in the Midlands I think

One lady left in absolute hysterics , feeling unattractive unwanted and left out as no one wanted her or them to participate in their fun

Was a very start reminder of how tough you'd have to be to take part in this

Wow thanks for the replies, so I’d consider myself bicurious, it’s a joint idea, probably me so more than him. Our relationship is far from over, and I have no interest in having a threesome with another man.

Yes. It ended badly. As everyone here predicted.

Don't forget about the increased risk of STDs even with barrier protection.

I'd be quite interested in trying it. I had a fairly casual relationship for 6months recently, sexually intense, where I fully fantasised about him having sex / oral with someone else. The idea of it turned me on.
I would have considered doing it had he suggested it.

I think with a long term partner / DH it is a different kettle of fish somehow.

Bad idea.

I think that it is a recipe for jealousy, insecurity, one partner being into it more than the other and the possibility of becoming desensitised by it and not seeing regular sex as fun anymore. Not to mention the risk of STIs and meeting dodgy people if you were thinking of using clubs/specialist parties.

If you are bi-curious and you are both up for an open relationships maybe just explore your options individually.

But that requires you both being secure in the relationship and discussing any potential pitfalls and making sure that these extra partners will not affect your primary relationship.

If you are considering doing this because your relationship is not in good health and sex is boring and you hope that will help improve the situation then that is a huge mistake as this will only make matters worse...

We’ve been together 9 years and it’s something we’ve spoken about over the last 8 months a lot really, watch porn together dress up etc so we haven’t gone from one extreme to the other. We’re quite open with what each other wants/likes.
id just like to hear some positive stories and if it can bring a different element to a relationship, obv not something you would do all the time just now and then, not for it to be made the base of your sex life

I suppose you dont know unless you try
plenty of people swing so it must work for them

I have a friend whose ex "persuaded" her to try all sorts of deviant stuff from swinging to threesomes and sex parties. She was desperate to keep her marriage going and thinking this would please him, she did. Ended terribly as whatever she went along with, he just wanted more and to up the ante.

However, if it's you who's curious then knock yourself out but I think it may be a bit seedier than portrayed in porn films

@Littlelollipopxo you can only try ? If it does or doesn't work for you both then you'll know

Maybe consider a stranger away from home and see how you both feel

Yeah I wouldn’t go down the route of doing it with someone we know. We’re both adults so if we don’t like it we can tell each other

Hi OP. Google the Vista Wife and follow her on Instagram.

Lots of information and advice on there for newbies and a wonderful community of people for you to chat to before you decide whether or not you would like to meet anyone. There are also guides to clubs and events, even advice on what to wear and how to navigate your first visit.

It’s a mix of couples and single women (unicorns) and most will be happy to talk to you about their experiences and how their relationships and lives have been enhanced. For many couples the most fulfilling aspect of swinging is the sex they have alone together after a party or meet.

Welcome, a beautiful new world awaits!

Ah thankyou this is exactly the thing I hoped to read, I’ll definitely look her up!

I hope so 🤣

Yep. We tried it and it was fun. No fall outs. Sometimes it wasn't great and we got things wrong but overall was a huge amount of fun and pleasure. Met some great people and mostly like us. No drama.

I’ve had a threesome, at times I was a bit ‘left out’ by the ladies

It was pretty much just a tick on the box, and in a relationship under which my partner was ticking off her list of experiences (definitely no complaints from me)

But it wasn’t up to what it’s cracked up to be

Make sure that you’re sure, you pick someone you’re into (noting that a stranger is likely to be better than someone you know to avoid awkward situations) ….. and importantly if you use an app then ensure you have control of the account & messages etc

Wow thanks for the replies, so I’d consider myself bicurious, it’s a joint idea, probably me so more than him

there is no such thing as a joint idea, one person suggests it first, you are not a hive mind, so this and the “ probably” tells me it was his idea first off

and yeah, it’s over, I’m sorry, being there and joining in when he shags other women won’t change it,

OP? Hi. You might want to get this moved to the sex area/topic/board.

Hope you had a productive day 😉

If you're bicurious you'd be better off with a woman 1 on 1 😂