Just sad and scared about the future.

[50plusandfabulous]

Ive been posting a while, age 51 , split with DH after nearly 25 years in Feb 2021.

Life been utterly shit since. We are now at the point of selling my beautiful marital home where he has been living ( and I've been paying ). My outgoings current are 3k a month in mortgage, rent and bills.

I’m completely devastated at the thought of my house being sold. I’ve had so much loss and sadness over the past 18 months and when i went back to clean pre the photos being taken, I was just overcome with grief to the point where i cancelled the estate agent .

I feel as though I’m never going to be happy again, and I’m so fearful and sad about my future alone. My marriage was pretty shit but i don't ever remember feeling this low. Last Xmas was utterly dreadful and i cant see this years being any better.

Weekdays are fine as I have a demanding job that i enjoy and I go the gym most nights, but weekends are just horrendous. Everyone i know is married and I have no one to do stuff with.

just don’t know what to do.

Nothing you can do. This is only going to be a short period of time in your whole life. It can’t be roses and sunshine all of the time. Embrace this emotion as it won’t be forever, it’s just something your going through at this point in your life. It will change, it will get better….it may get more shittier first maybe….but you will eventually get there, life can change in a day really!

It’s a grieving process and a massive life change you’re going through. Give yourself LOTS of time! Feelings come and go, and lessen in intensity over time.

At the weekends are there some things you could plan to give yourself a different focus? Maybe have a look on the ‘Meet Up’ app to find some groups and start making new friends.

That sounds tough OP. I know how lonely weekends/holidays can feel if you're not coupled or in a family situation. Where do you live? Have you thought of joining local clubs?