Tell me about your FWB success stories

[thelastshadowpuppet]

Just that really.

Sorry, that's 3 years on and off, not 5!!

My FWB used to tell me he loved me and I was is his perfect woman, then ghosted me with no warning.

Luckily I took his declarations with a pinch of salt as I did have feelings for him.

To me Sex and love are 2 different things.
I’ve had a 10 year successful FWB Arrangement and by that I mean no attachment, no romantic feelings, but respect and mutual understand of what it is and what it isn’t. Great sex. I have no idea about his life, hobbies, when his bday is etc.

The other FWB is more of a casual friend, we talk / chat about our day, text regularly but don’t make any overly romantic gestures or rely on each other for emotional support like you would in a relationship. Suits me, my life, my choice.

FWB Arrangements are doomed to fail as one person always ends up wanting more or gets emotionally attached. Usually the woman because nature makes us bond to the person we have sex with and potentially could have babies with.

It’s my choice not to be in a relationship, I prefer being Single. I’m very independent and self sufficient and quite selfish as I don’t want to have to change my life to fit in with another person.
For company etc and social interactions I have a great group of friends, for sex I have a fwb.

For hugs/ emotional support and love I have my family. Plus my dog gives me unconditional love. I honestly don’t feel that I need a man or partner to complete my life and don’t really understand why this seems to be everyone’s priority to the point that people seem to think that they have failed at life if they are single.

I was very flirty with the guy who was my fwb but we were very much friends. He was looking to leave town and didn't want to fall for anyone, he also didn't want a relationship with someone who wasn't free for random adventures (I have children). I suggested a no strings fling. He wasn't sure. I dated guys disastrously he laughed with me. Then he said OK let's try. We had a "date" every fortnight and had five months where I occasionally dated others he was hankering after someone he wouldn't see for months. He moved, I helped. He helped me get together with my now husband (he was a groomsman), I was a shoulder to cry (and nothing more) on when his mum died, he then found someone, me and husband still cheering him on there. He was one of my few friends who bothered getting in touch when I had miscarriages If you're really friends, then you care about each other getting g what you want out of life. That comes first, then it's really easy to not have sex or their other relationships be a big deal.

I definitely benefited! He was super hot and great in bed, but not someone I'd ever consider a long term prospect. How you've come to the conclusion that the women don't benefit is beyond me!