I'm lost please help

[feelingconfused12]

Me and my partner have been together for a while and me and his ex don't get on at all he runs to her telling her stuff about me she knows more about me than I do myself anyways he told her that he was going to leave me and because he didn't leave me she said how dare you lie to me and your daughter I've lost all respect for you you don't ever take our daughter around her again so Hes listened and kept her away for about 2 months then started bringing her again but she's made to keep this a secret until he tells her im pregnant and I said she said stay away he said things have changed and your pregnant she can't tell me what to do im confused before I was pregnant he couldn't give a shit and now he's trying to put things right and I'm not interested

Gosh, you could go with a full stop or two !

Yes, that was a difficult read. I'm also confused as to why you'd have a baby with someone who slags you to their ex.

Why did you get pregnant to this manipulative, untrustworthy man - he’s not going to change and now there’s going to be a baby in the mix. However, assuming you are going ahead, I would get the hell out as being a single parent is defo preferable to the shit show this relationship is..

What’s the question? If you’re uninterested youre uninterested.

'I'm not interested'

OK. So what are you confused about. You know how you feel. Just keep your distance from him as much as you can, and don't get caught up in long dramatic thought processes about him/the situation.

Gave up reading. Sorry.

Wow it was a rushed message sorry people can be so hurtful at times

Sorry op I don’t know why people are being so snooty to you.

When you say you are not interested, what do you mean? Do you still want to be with him as a couple?

Nobody's being snooty. It is hard to read and understand your post, OP, and I'm sure people have pointed that out just so that when you write responses, you'll bear it in mind.

The condescending replies with punctuation police patrols here are not helpful. The OP is not after lessons in punctuation. The snobbery.

OP your partner is doing something called triangulation. Look it up. What I would do is concentrate on your life now. If you split up with him, or if you already have, this sorry excuse for a behaviour from him will also apply to you with whomever he is with once you part ways. This is him, this is what he does. You cannot change him. Not with a baby, not with words or actions, this is him and his core belief, going round exes with stories to keep his supply’s going. Look up narcissistic supply on YouTube.

choose the behaviour choose the consequences, this goes for almost anything in life. So choose wisely and life a life that isn’t including shit like what he is bringing you. Be wiser than allowing him to abuse you like this.

I loved him dearly tried everything to make him happy and he didn't care how I felt, I just had to keep my mouth shut and sit back. Which is what I did and now I see that enoughs enough

He keeps his child away cause his ex says so! But now I'm pregnant he's bringing her back around again? He let her rule him and he says now she's not ruling anymore! But the damage is done I feel like I don't want to no anymore

Why do you accept so little for yourself?

wise up. He is teaching you how he is going to treat you and you are accepting that, why?

am I right that the only time he treats you right is when he wants sex? When you have money? Food?

please connect the dots, he is not a nice person

I gave up about 3 lines down due to the lack of punctuation

The sad thing is I did love him

Sorry op I don’t know why people are being so snooty to you

im not sure that’s fair. The op posed no question simply made a statement and it was hard to read. She says she’s uninterested. She once loved him but doesn’t now, It’s over. So no one really knows what she’s actually asking. If anything, as no question has been asked,

I know it's horses and stable doors, but why on Earth are you with him and having a baby with someone who slags you off to his ex!

The comments about punctuation were probably because the OP s difficult to read and could be misunderstood.

Me and my partner have been together for a while
How long is a while?
and me and his ex don't get on at all he runs to her telling her stuff about me she knows more about me than I do myself
He slags you off to his ex?
anyways he told her that he was going to leave me
Was he going to leave you? Did he tell you before he told her?
and because he didn't leave me she said how dare you lie to me and your daughter I've lost all respect for you you don't ever take our daughter around her again
He told you this?

so Hes listened and kept her away for about 2 months then started bringing her again but she's made to keep this a secret until he tells her im pregnant
Is 'she' his DD? Are you pregnant and he hasn't told the ex?

and I said she said stay away
he said things have changed and your pregnant she can't tell me what to do

im confused
before I was pregnant he couldn't give a shit and now he's trying to put things right and I'm not interested

So your pregnant with someone who slags you off to his DD's mum?

I don't understand what you are not intersted in - him or his contact with his ex? His DD?

How far gone are you with the pregnancy?