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Is this a thing?

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RoseMartha · 26/06/2022 11:18

To bear the brunt of something that went wrong for your abusive exh when he is in the love bombing phase of a new relationship?

I had an incident with exh last week where he totally went verbally nuts at me over nothing. There was a slight school issue with our eldest dc (nothing to get worked up about or worry over), and he twisted it all saying I was giving him a guilt trip when in fact it he was making me feel guilty for a decision he then decided to make and he said I was being selfish.

I wondered if bc he was in a new relationship and maybe something had upset him with that or work he took it out on me because I was the easy target and he would not want his new gf to see the real him.

Is that a behaviour trait in abusive people to target the ex rather than current partner?

OP posts:
Watchkeys · 26/06/2022 11:37

He's still abusing you. Stop analysing his behaviour. Keep as far away from him as you can, and spend as little time as possible thinking about him.

Spend your time working out why you feel you need explanations for his behaviour, beyond 'He was horrible, I'm out of here.'

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