Exactly how bad was me saying this?

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Every so often throughout pregnancy my exdp would accuse me of tampering with contraception. We were using condoms.

One one occasion after a huge fall out, I text his dad/brother to say it was causing me huge stress that he kept doing this and that we’d used a physical barrier which he had opened.

I never heard back from them and didn’t necessarily expect to. But I wonder if it’s why they’ve had no interest ever in their grandchild… feel shit about it often.

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Pretty bad. What were you thinking?!

Throughout pregnancy? Whaaaat?? He does know you can’t get pregnant again right

Yeh that was odd.

We had effectively broken up by this point and I was at my wits end. I think I wanted them to know how he’d been.

@Cakeandcoffee93 no he kept referring to that time every so often

Did you tamper with the contraception?

@ClocksGoingBackwards no we only ever used condoms and he usually bought them

If they were interested in their grandchild they wouldn't be put off by your text, so don't take on the responsibility for their choices.
Obviously it wasn't the most well thought out thing you've ever done as it's really inappropriate to involve family members like this, but if their desire to see your child rests on this one action, your child is better off without them.

You shouldn't have said it. It's not their business.

However their behaviour is far, far worse by not keeping in touch with their grandchild and the child's mother.