In February, I finally met DP’s friends on a night out. I met DP’s friend (let’s call him Ryan’s) girlfriend, who was lovely but very much a handful. She’s made Ryan fall out with a few of his own friends as his ex girlfriend from a few months previously is in the same circle (if that makes sense), caused a ton of drama to the point Ryan threw a drink in his ex girlfriends face on this particular night due to the new gf..
I told DP she is lovely but would be staying away as she is clearly trouble. She added me on Instagram and I thought maybe I should make the effort as she’s the only one of DP’s friends I have on social media (he doesn’t have it). She messaged me non stop for weeks; then asked for a double date where we get dinner. I said sure, she said Tuesday and I asked where and when. No reply. Tuesday comes and DP asks if I can message her to say about rescheduling as he starts his new job and doesn’t have much time, now I didn’t even think she had booked it due to silence!. I assumed it wasn’t booked, to which she replied she booked somewhere and paid a deposit but wasn’t feeling well so would try and call. I sent her two messages asking for an update. Read and seen, no response. I get DP to text Ryan who says it’s all good and not to worry - being super friendly and not bothered.
Since then, she pops in and out. You’ll send her a message and she’ll reply weeks later. She leaves me on seen constantly. I’m starting to feel.. inferior? I know she’s drama so I keep asking myself is there something I’ve done wrong that she knows about? I’m constantly liking her photos and updates being supportive, no response or reciprocation. I keep worrying she’ll try and turn Ryan and DP against me as she is so unpredictable. I also think she is a bit of a cokehead, as she’s out every single night despite having two jobs and has such irregular responses and timing etc.
DP thinks I’m being silly but I know I’m a people pleaser. Am I being silly?