Constant lies

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I’ve once again caught out my partner lying to me again. It’s over something stupid but he seems to lie about everything. He’s been doing it for 5 years.

Has anyone been in a situation like this and managed to come through it. Does a liar ever stop lying? My head is a mess

Yes, my DH lies. It’s pathetic. It’s usually about money where he knows/assumes I’ll get mad about something he has bought. For me it’s not about the money, it’s the dishonesty. But he doesn’t see that, he thinks it’s about money.

And no, he hasn’t stopped. I just decided to let it go and call him out on it, it was either that or the massive upheaval of divorce.

I have been in a similar position, unfortunately after 12 years and 2 children we divorced.

I was sick of the constant lies, about anything and everything. Some things were big things, like emotional affairs, some were small like lying about timings, things he's doing, general being extremely unreliable. There were so many tiny lies I didn't really know what if I was coming or going sometimes!

4 years on from our separation he still constantly lies.

I lie to my H for an easier life.

He's a grade A nag and if I told the truth the whole time I'd drown in his over bearing opinions, criticisms and harassment - I'm not suggesting that's why your partner is lying to you but if you can figure out why he feels the need to lie and discuss it with him then he might be able to change.

My head is a mess

And that right there is your answer. It's going to continue to mess with your head. Sounds like you have a compulsive liar on your hands, and I definitely wouldn't be able to trust someone like that.

Sometimes small lies are actually worse as it makes you doubt every single little thing, even the simple things.

I've dated a guy before who used to lie about all sorts of things that wouldn't actually have bothered me in the slightest if he told the truth. It got to the point where I felt like everything he said to me was just a fantasy.

Also, the question has to be asked, if he can lie over something "stupid", how do you know he isn't lying about the bigger things?

Lying is big no-no for me in a partner. The dishonesty and the constant self-doubt would mess with my mental health big time.