Explaining to people why i'm still single

[kingkingmayo]

I've been divorced for over 20 years with two kids. I have been on dates but its I'm just not interested anymore. I have had to fill in both parenting roles i.e. changing the car tire to lighting a barbecue.

But often at events like going out with family and meeting people I still get to the topic as to why I'm still single and why I left my husband. Its 2022 and people would be more accepting now of the reason why he left me (you can work this one out) but I still don't feel having to divulge it to them. Neither do I wish to lie as I'd hate it.

any tips on how to respond. Hope you're having a fine evening!

I haven't even discussed with my sister why exdh and I split up.

I don't discuss my relationship or why I'm single. Its no one's business but mine!

Thought of another one-

Because my Cosmic Order for Mel Gibson didn't work

Tell people to mind their own sodding business. I've been single and a lone parent for 9 years. I can't bring myself to go there again after the horrors of my divorce. All I see on MN is people in shit relationships or people who can't seem to manage without being with somebody however shit it is. No thanks. I have no inclination to put myself through that again and if people ask that is exactly what I say 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't think I've ever been asked and I've been single a very long time.
If I were, I think I'd just say "because I prefer to be" 🤷‍♀️

"Why did you leave your husband?" - "It just didn't work out."

"Why are you still single?" - "Because I'm not looking for a relationship."

If anyone's rude enough to try to ask why to either of those responses, just reiterate the responses then change the subject.

I use this for all annoying questions.

People really are ridiculous sometimes aren't they?
And when they go on about people having babies 🙈 So insensitive.

I've never asked anyone why they're single Sounds very intrusive and unnecessary

I'm shocked that people ask why you're single! It's really rude, none of their business, and shows they think that single is odd and being coupled is 'normal'.

If someone is happy to be that rude to you, don't be too worried about being polite in response.

Some good answer suggestions above. "why are you single"?

• because I like it


• because being single is so much more fun than being married


• I've tried marriage and single is SO much better


• Why are you married?

This! Some of the things I read on here make me think I'm so much better off single for life haha.

OP, just smile and tell them you're happy as you are, then change the subject.

In 2022, I have no idea why people are still so obsessed by someone else's relationship status. I had a colleague ask if I was seeing anyone yet. When I said no, he looked gutted and started sighing at me. It's annoying but I just brush it off now. It's especially annoying when it's asked by someone who isn't exactly in the best relationship themselves.

I used to say to people.. I don't have room in my wardrobe, for a man in my life (didn't take long for me to take over both sides of the wardrobe when I became single).

It is a silly facetious answer but does seem to stop people in their tracks

It is a strange thing that some people find it so unfathomable that there are people who are ok/ like/ want to be single.

The strangest one’s I’ve met are women who get so triggered about other women choosing to be single!
Never understood what that is about.

I'm saving my self for Bradley Coooer x