Really annoyed with partner

[ftm79507]

What’s your opinion on this. I’ve been gravely I’ll today with a bad flu (2 days already) and I’m 1 month pregnant morning sickness, I told my partner who was at work I don’t think I can look after our 1 yr old safely too weak to get up couldn’t breathe felt like fainting and constant over the toilet being sick he said he wouldnt come home and if I could pick up a phone to tell him and feed our son then I’ll be fine. I got on with it. Crawled into bed as soon as ds went to bed. Not joking I coped with covid better than this. Wrote three things on white board I couldn’t manage to do anything today but needed to be done. One I never ask him for anything he barely lifts a finger in this house! Given he works 11-9, I get it but he gets annoyed saying the last thing he wants to do is clean when he gets back from work, they were literally wash at least one bottle for the morning milk, scoop litter tray and put things in piles in the kitchen bc things are everywhere. Aibu for being uset? He spends hours sitting down here playing his game and eating after work. Don't see why this is such a task not like he needs to sleep immediately

Oh dear.
Do you have a job ?

Nope I put my career aside for his and became a sahm. Wanted to go back to work in next few months but apparently we can't afford it and it wouldn't be fair on our baby.

Do you own your home and have your name on the deeds ?

I have never asked him never ever to help me clean after his done at work the house is always spotless and this one time I couldn't do it and he complains like I don't understand. I get it my job as a sahm but surely helping for 15 minutes isn't a big deal

It's a council place but under my name, everything furniture wise came from his Nan

Why why why you put yourself in a such compromised, vulnerable position for a man who you’re not even married to?

You're not married and you have given up your job? And you're planning on having baby no 2 with someone who wont help with the child you already have together? This situation has the hallmarks of getting a whole lot worse.

Can I assume your child, and the child you’re carrying, has/will have your DP’s surname ?

Do you have your own bank account with child benefit paid into it ? If no, you need to do it.

I think his attitude stinks. He shows no regard for you at all. I'm sorry, it must feel awful.

You need to gain more self respect and demand better behaviour from your "partner". Why are your expectations so low?

He said he was annoyed because I didn't ask him to do it when he got home instead I asked 4 minutes into the phone call we had because I didn't want to forget and was going to sleep when he was home and he may not have seen the white board. Because I got up and did it myself and scribble out the list instead of wiping it that I'm being an asshole and walked out into the garden and didn't speak to me. Ive been in absolute tears since I don't understand

Another man who thinks having a child means his life should be easier and with less responsibility and work than a single man living on his own.

Tell him to buck up his ideas of being a partnership with the mother of his children or find somewhere else to live.

I'm a relationship you should both love and care for each other. Those are verbs.

What an absolute twat .. send him back to his mother what a man child. Tell him to find somewhere else to live!